Is it too early to ask my bridesmaids and mohs?

Thanks guys I have decided to go ahead and ask because I feel that is best for me in my situation.😊

Mine’s the month before and I already did! I like to give people a heads up to plan schedules and financially.

I get married a month after you and I have asked 3/4 of mine (the 4th in an hour). I had proposal items for them too.


I supposed everyone saying they’re concerned about relationships with people in a year and a half is valid, you just have to decide.
I picked people I’m 100% sure aren’t going anywhere.

I know people on here frown upon it, but I asked my wedding party immediately. There was no doubt in my mind who I wanted, and those people had been my closest friends for over 10 years. Then, the pandemic hit, and my wedding went from being in the Fall of 2020, to being in the fall of 2022. So, essentially, I ended up asking my wedding party 3 years in advance LOL And, if I had to choose all over again today, I would still pick the exact same people!

I asked mine between November and December of last year my FH just finished asking a few weeks ago! I’m getting married on October 28th

Dear Bride to Be,
Congratulations! Now let's get deep and real.

#1 Make sure you have a clear vision of what a Made of Honor & Bridesmaid role will be for you.
If you're planning to pay for all their costs, are you expecting they'll gift you with their skill sets & time make sure they know that and aren't surprised later.
If you're not planning to pay for their costs, be honest with them that on average guests can spend easily $$$$
-tickets to fly for various events (if not hometown)-wedding shower, bachelorette, wedding gifts -wedding party activities (travel, food, hotel, spa, bars) -makeup artists (hair/makeup coat) not cheap
As expensive as is for just a wedding & your own expenses. It's as equally for the wedding party.
Be comfortable hearing no, and remember to show compassion. I suggest even if you assumemoney is no object, letting your wedding party know early on can allow each individual to budget for a year if needed rather then have a large expense in a shorter timeframe.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! A lot of people don’t realize how much a wedding can be on the wedding party! From purchasing dresses to having to make arrangements to be off on certain days for bridal showers, etc. I definitely don’t want anything extravagant and I am pretty sure my FH’s parents are going to do a bridal shower and I don’t want anything extravagant for bachelorette parties I’ll probably do maybe a girls day out or a bridal luncheon. I definitely don’t expect these girls to fork out money on me, I just want them to have plenty of time to take off work and time to get to bond with each other so the wedding day and bachelorette party can be a time to remember for everyone and not awkward. Thanks so much for the advice!

View Quoted Comment Autumn,
Wishing you all the best. You sound like you get it. If you’re trying to avoid awkwardness don’t worry about it. remember no wedding is perfect and that’s ok! You’re going to have the time of your life! Halloween, Friendsgiving, birthdays? Get the other side more involved by extending invites. I’ve know my husband for 20 years and my family is divorced they had not seen the other side in 34 years. Trust me everything falls into perfect place in honor of the couple. ❤️ 💫🙌🏼🫶🏻

You can ask them now if you like. But manage your expectations. Even if they have a lot of time before your wedding, they might not end up becoming the best of friends. A longer timeline doesn't really change that they'll be at your bachelorette and at the day-of -- and probably not much else beyond that.

I asked my friends just a couple days after my proposal date lol. Two of them live out of state so I definitely wanted them know soon! Relationships can change of course and if that happens you will just have to work something out at that moment but again these relationships may stay the same and now you have your bridal party! Do whatever feels right! You don’t have to wait if you don’t want too!

It's definitely not too early to mingle. I had a bridal party reveal in May who I wanted in my wedding so I brought it of the girls a box with goodies in there and they love it. It's definitely not too early to meet because these weeks/months go so quickly and you want to be organized and you can also have a moh to help you keep inline what you what from the rest of the girls I hope this helps

We currently having our next meeting at my house to talk about the dresses and different things or you can also have a group chat when y'all discuss things for the wedding I thing this will help

If you feel confident in the people you’re asking, then do it! I asked mine a year in advance. It’s my three best friends and future sister in law. My best friends and I have been besties for over 4 years and we’re still going strong. So I think, ask who you want, when you want!

I know I'm a little late to this discussion, but I agree that asking now is the right choice. I asked my sister 4 years ahead of time to be my MOH and am still happy with my decision. Like you said, there's a lot that goes into being in a wedding, even if it is just buying a dress.

I plan on getting married at the same time! I plan on asking mine this fall.

I am also getting married October 2023! I have bought proposal gifts, and asked all of my bridesmaids and maid of honor. I say go for it!

I'm getting married in Oct 2024 and am wanting to complete this task in the next couple of months because of the same reasons. In my opinion its better to be early than to be late and be running out of time to do everything you want to do.

It's also really considerate of you to want to plan things early so the girls can all get to know each other. That's really thoughtful. Sounds like you know what you're doing to be honest

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I am not getting married until April 2023 and I asked my choices now so that they have that date blocked off. It's my best friend, SIL, my daughter and really close friend from my old job so I know it would not change. They even went with me yesterday to look at dresses and we found the one.

I legit just started asking!

If you already know exactly who u want to be in your bridal party I say go for it! I got engaged a year and a half ago and I asked all my girls shortly after I was engaged!