Is it too late to decide i don't want bridesmaids?

If you're prepared for the hurt feelings and altering friendships with them, go for it. If they have already purchased anything for your wedding (dress, shoes, etc) then you should reimburse them for the expense.

Is it more of a "friendship" stress or "bridesmaid" stress? If it's latter I would re-evaluate what you are expecting of them as bridesmaids. If it's the former, then take a good look at your friendship as a whole and if in 1, 5, 10 years down the road, will you regret the decision?

I think it’s too late for you. They could seriously be hurt and it could cause more drama for you

Exactly what Janet said. Check to see if this is something friendship related or bridesmaid related. But also check to see what your expectations are for your bridesmaids. Are they aware of your expectations or did you assume? At the end of the day a bridesmaid is suppose to just wear their dress and stand next to you on your big day. There is no contract or rule that they have to do this and that for the brides. It would be nice for the brides, but again they don't have to as they have other priorities to attend to their own lives (school, work, family, etc.).

If you plan on removing them from the bridal party just know that it may cause a strain in your friendship as they will think that they weren't good enough or think that you had too many expectations for them when they never wanted those responsibilities in the first place.

So, just really evaluate this situation first and see if it is something you can fix without possibly hurting your friendship with these girls.

One of my sister's bridesmaids quit the morning of the wedding.

I think it's alright to "fire" bridesmaids if they are hurting you. If they get offended, how much is their friendship worth? Are you prepared to reimburse them if they have bought dresses already? Another thing to consider is whether it's important to you or your future husband to have a matching number of bridesmaids and groomsmen.

I had no bridesmaids and it was definitely one of the best decisions I made.

Seems weird that you're having problems with several people though. Have you looked at whether you're contributing to the tension at all?

Kicking out your BM's will end those friendships and you may come across looking like a giant bridezilla (not that I love that phrase).

Close friend asked a bridesmaid to step down and it caused a rift between THE ENTIRE SIDE OF HER DADS FAMILY. They haven’t spoken in 10 years. I’m literally not exaggerating


if you already asked them, I think you need to keep them. I just don’t want u to do anything u might regret

There is a difference between firing bridesmaids and choosing not to have them.

If you are prepared to eliminate the friendships of those people (and possibly those tied to them) go for it. But don't expect that you will be able to ask people to "step-down" and not permanently damage those relationships.

You can always GREATLY minimize expectations for bridesmaids to minimize drama. If they were originally helping you with wedding tasks, planning a shower or bachelorette, going dress shopping with you, or doing other involved tasks, just eliminate those duties entirely. Showing up on time in a modestly priced dress that you asked them to wear, standing at your side for a short ceremony, and taking some photos afterward should be doable for everyone. Keep expectations low and it should minimize the stress and drama.

If your expectations are already bare-bones and maids are still being problematic, then I would say the friendship is probably not worth salvaging anyway, so ditching the maids might be worth it. Just know nixing them from your wedding could be a friendship ending move, and if you have mutual friends undoubtably some might take sides, so it has the potential to impact more than just your relationship with the maids in question.

I have a similar situation- I decided to not have one in my wedding (May 2022) but to be fair on one we didn’t speak most of this year (she’s my future BIL’s wife and we work together so no excuse for that except she’s full of drama) so she missed my dress shopping & bridesmaid dress shopping so I just 🤷🏻‍♀️ Now she’s 3 months pregnant so I figured it wouldn’t be an issue because of that, but nope! Not having her in it caused a major family argument in which my fiancé took my side because he knows how toxic and dramatic her behavior is. So now I only have my sister, my best friend and my 2 daughters (18 &13) in it. WAY LESS DRAMATIC! I do agree on examining your behavior first before making any changes and also questioning if these women are really your friends at all. Sometimes we ask people to stand with us because we are excited and don’t really think about how much their personalities will effect our mood on that day.