Is it too long to be waiting?

We are having an 18 month engagement. Sometimes I feel like it is kind of long (especially since we have pretty everything planned and the wedding isn't next July), but then in some respects I am SO HAPPY we did not plan on fall of this year because it feels really fast. I think you just need to be confident in your decision because no doubt you are going to get comments from people about it being so long.

FH & I got engaged July 2018. I think that if it is just to allow some more planning time and even financial planning time its fine honestly it is what works best for your situation. Long engagements are more common than you might think.

I think that's fine! More time to grow together and plan never hurts

I got engaged May 3, 2019 and we aren’t getting married until August 24, 2024. It’s not bad to wait. Everyone has their own reasons to push it off. For me, I pushed it off so I could afford it and have the wedding/honeymoon of my dreams. You do you.

Not at all! Do what works best for you! If you need that extra time to save, then so be it. We were engaged for just over 3.5years before finally getting married.

I got engaged on 3/24/2019 and we aren't getting married until 5/15/2021. A lot of people I know have made negative comments regarding our 2 year engagement but I'm in medical school, so it's more important to me that I fulfill my lifelong dream of becoming a doctor than for me to rush to get married. Not having my wedding until 2021 will also give me plenty of time to plan and save up for what will be a much more magical night than I had initially imagined. My advice to you is you know what's right for your relationship - don't rush things just because it's considered "unconventional" to have a long engagement. Who cares. If you love each other, it doesn't matter how long you wait to actually tie the knot. Waiting also gives you more time to save up for your dream wedding Don't let anyone's opinion stand in the way of what should be the happiest time in your life. Congratulations!

I got engaged on 3/22/19. We decided on a 3 year engagement due to the family situations we are currently dealing with. Another thing that is weighing in on the long engagement is making sure that we have all of our ducks in a row and enough time and money to get everything taken care of before it becomes too overwhelming.

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We got engaged in September 2017 and we are planning an April 2021 wedding.

There is no such thing as too long. Life happens. Perhaps you think you need that time to fully save up enough money for the wedding. Perhaps you are both paying your way through your MBAs. Perhaps you or your partner are currently focusing on taking care of a sick parent.

As long as you guys are happy with the date and it is realistic for your needs then that is what matters. I am two years into my wedding and I haven't had anyone make comments.

Just do what makes you happy!

Andrea from NJ

I just recently got engaged last month and we haven’t even picked a date. We wanted it to be at least in 22 or more. We haven’t even told anyone because it’s such a far time away and we wanted to enjoy it being our secret. I’ve always found long engagements incredibly romantic. One year is so short to be a fiancé in my opinion. It’s a wonderful middle ground and the perfect time to plan your future with this other person and see who they are as they change. It’s a perfect time to be realistic with your future. How are they under this new pressure and life change? How’s your in-laws adjusting to this news? What holds you back as a couple? What makes you both grow? Fiancé means so much more than girlfriend and I feel a lot of people skip it which is fine honestly (you do you). This title to me means you have laid the foundation to a relationship and you’re ready to build. Being a fiancé is taking the time to map out what’s important to you and what you are willing to change, all changes are hard at first and it seems to go smoother if you are open and realistic. It’s incredibly personal and I’ve already noticed a shift in the way we interact with each other. You can say “ I love you “ and “I want to marry you”all you want but there’s something more powerful with the follow through and it becomes an eye opener. SORRY for the rant!

I have been enaged for 1 year will be 2 before we get married next year. We decided to wait until I graduated from college next year to get married one of the things my FH was adamant on but it didn't bother me much. Gives us time to save up for the things we really want. I would say 3 years is not long at all as it all depends on the couple.

I think everyone is different & it's totally fine! We are technically waiting almost 2.5 years. Got engaged November 2017 & will be getting married April 2020!

For us it was a matter of two factors, 1 being I am super weird & didn't want to get married in an odd number year & 2018 was right around the corner and I couldn't even imagine that! And the second was it was super important to us to be able to pay for our wedding ourselves & not have to ask for help/go into debt.

Everyone has their own timeline!

Congrats on your engagement!!

I'm sure you will get people that will think you guys are crazy for waiting but many will understand you are doing it right and waiting until the time is right.

I have been with my fh for ten years,he proposed last December so we have almost been engaged for a year and everything thinks it's so crazy that we are waiting until 2021 maybe early 2022.

I don’t know what I could say that hasn’t already been said- everyone’s circumstances are different and you and your fiancé are going to know what is best for the two of you. The are pros and cons to both short and long engagements, but I look at it this way: you’re both together, and if there’s anything in particular that you want for your wedding, a longer engagement means more time to plan and make those dreams a reality.


My fiancé and I are newly engaged, and it’s going to be two years (October 2021) from now before we get married. Current circumstances mean that we don’t live together just yet, with a plan to move in together next summer when a rental home that his grandmother owns becomes available as a first step to really saving up to purchase a Home. We both want to get married in the fall- early October so we don’t come too close to thanksgiving. I feel like with us dealing with a move next year, October would just be too soon to throw a wedding into the mix.

The venue I want is kind of expensive but I fell in love with it. This gives me a bit more time to save up for the things I’d really like to have, and also time to do any diy projects without feeling rushed.

I am getting married this November and we got engaged May 2015. There’s nothing wrong with waiting. We only did because we couldn’t afford a wedding.

I personally love the idea of a long engagement! I see these people getting married after 4-5 months of being engaged (which isn’t a problem) but it blows my mind that they can get everything packed in and planned in that short amount of time! I wanted to enjoy my engagement, and having an almost two year engagement has really helped because I can plan everything out with time to relax! I feel like a shorter engagement would cause a lot of stress but I know a lot of people who do it and absolutely rock it!

I agree with you!! My engagement is technically a LONG one as well. I wont be married until August 2021 and personally I am loving taking my time planning everything down to the last detail. On top of that as well you know everyday life keeps on going on top of planning so it's not as stressful when things are spread out. I will use 2020 to book and pay majority of the things needed in my August 2021 wedding. And use the beginning of 2021 to tie up any loose ends along with fittings and alterations needed for anyone's dresses or tuxedos etc...... enjoy it is what I say

There's no such thing as waiting too long if you're waiting for logistical reasons rather than "fearing commitment" or being unsure. My fiance and I are waiting as long as it takes until we have enough money for the wedding of our dreams.

We've been together 6 years, been engaged for 1. We aren't getting married for at least 3 years. We haven't even tried to set a date because of my fiance's job. Do what ever you want, it is your marriage in the end and you know what's best for you both.

My fiance and I have been engaged since February and decided to wait until 2022 to get married mainly due to financial security! I want to purchase a house and have a nice place to call our own after we tie the knot! Plus, I'm changing careers to become a flight attendant while he's traveling for his chef career. We both wanted time to travel and experience things outside while maintaining our LDR ❤️(4 years strong) it was a no brainier to us when we decided to wait this long, there's no shame! Plus the cost of living is CRAZY 😬

We were originally planning a 2 year engagement but because he will just have graduated a few months before we moved it 3 years out. Engineering is a long track and we want to save money to have our dream wedding. We plan small things every now and then and we have a venue picked. It's a lot more peaceful planning with so much time to do it. It gives you a chance to really dive into what you want and not be stressed for 6 months before your wedding. I'm so excited for our date and I wouldn't change it for the world.