Is it too long to be waiting?

I'm getting married 10/19 after 2.5 yrs of being engaged. Our reasons for waiting is bc we bought a house first. Plus we were paying for it all on our own. I will say that I'm sick of planning and paying for stuff and I've been ready to get married lol. But its completely up to you. Dont let anyone's opinions change your mind.

I am waiting three years as well, because I can’t afford college without the scholarship I’m on and I would lose it if I was married. I love it because there is absolutely no rush on anything. Both my FH AND I are still in school and neither really has the time to plan so having all this time makes things wayyy easier and less stressful!

We have been together for 6 years and our wedding will be October of 2023. We’ve been together since we were super young and still really young lol. I’ll be 22 in a month and a half. We chose our date because it’s the only day that falls on the same day we officially became partners and it’s a Saturday. I know, kinda weird lol. Also we wanted to wait until I finished college while building our credit and saving a large amount of money. Long engagements really aren’t a big deal if you both are equally invested in each other and know why you’re both waiting it out. I know this sounds harsh but getting married is honestly just a ceremony and a certificate. Not to say it’s unimportant because it’s a huge dream for many of us. But my point is, I don’t see TOO much changing just because you say “I do” especially for those couples who already live together. As long as the feelings between you two are understood is all that matters.

I got engaged in April of this year on my birthday. We been together for 6 years and I am deciding to wait until June 2022 bc my dad has been in prison for over 10 years. He set to be released in Aug 2021 and i couldn’t possibly imagine having a wedding without him walking me down along with my stepdad. Congrats btw

Hi!

We have chosen a pretty extensive wedding venue and could not afford it outright since we are doing it all on our own, we have had a 4 year engagement! I believe it has helped us to plan without being to overwhelmed or in to much debt. I hope this helps!

I truly believe there is no right or wrong answer to this question. It’s completely a personal preference! I got engaged 12.15.18, and FH & I will have our wedding 03.26.21. We decided to buy a home prior to our wedding, so a little over 2 year engagement made sense for us!

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Yes getting engaged means you are ready to get married but that does not mean you have the money to get married some people might want to wait a little longer so they can get the venue they want and not have to settle on a wedding. I am waiting to get married until 2025 because him and I want to finish collage and save money to get everything we could ever dream our wedding and honey moon to be,

I have been engaged since October 5th 2018. My wedding date is October 13th 2023. We choose to wait and make sure our finances are in order, we have a home that we built/bought and we are stable in all aspects. We do not feel the need to have to immediately get married. I love him now, we are together now. I will love him always and we will be together always ❤ Only difference will be the change in my last name.

We will be almost 2 years of us being engaged when we say I do. He proposed 10-14-17 and we are getting married on 10-10-19. We decided to wait because I wanted to finish college before planning. I finished this spring and had to plan while in school and working full time. I would have waited even longer but he really wanted to get married this year. But it is all up to you. I know my future brother in law got engaged a little bit before us in 2017 but won’t be getting married until 2021 or 2022. So it really up to you and when you feel ready.

It is up to the couple and whatever circumstances are causing you to wait.

I just finished graduate school, my partner is still in graduate school so we need two years to save up. What works best for you and your partner is what's best. ☺️

I’ll be getting married that year as well so I don’t think it’s too long.💕

We got engaged in July of this year and are planning for 2022, this will give us more time to save money and spread out payments. One of FH’s close friends also has a wedding planned for 2021 that we’ve known about since 2018. If you are having a 3 year engagement my advice would be to spend at least the first 6 months just enjoying being engaged. I’ve done some research and gathered some ideas of what we want and what we’re looking for, and come up with an amount that we’ll need that we can begin saving towards. But we’re not planning on touring any venues or booking anything until the beginning of next year.

Congrats!!
I have a saying....if you have to ask, you already know the answer...
Everyone is right though, theres no correct answer only what works best for the two of you. Quite often long engagements are related to financing the wedding but you have many options, a wedding & a reception is 1 very memorable day, your life together afterwards is meant to be a lifetime! We will have been engaged 7 months when we marry next month; we did not want a long engagement for a variety of reasons. What we discovered was "life" happens regardless of our plans...a lot of life can happen in 3 years!

We are doing a long engagemnet to save up money and make the right choice on venders and that way we dont break ourselves and can save for a honey moon as well

It's all up to you! FH and I didn't want to be engaged forever. We had no real reason to feel that way, but we just did. Therefor, it's only a 10 month engagement! I kind of wished it had been longer in hindsight, seeing as how we're paying for everything. Would be nice to have a 2-3 year engagement to save up the funds, but to each their own.

If you need to wait three years, wait three years. My fiance and I have been together for eight, two and half of those we've been engaged. We set our date about a year ago. If we had waited longer, we would have more time to save money. However, in my personal experience, more time means more chances to change your mind and find a different way to do things. Which can be nice, but also very frustrating and overwhelming.

You chose that date for a reason, and with the person you are going to marry and need to make decisions with for the rest of your lives. Why do you think you need to have a shorter engagement?

It's different for everyone! There's nothing wrong with waiting that long, especially if you have a certain reason you're waiting that long (waiting for one of you to finish school, etc.) It also gives you more time to plan while still enjoying your engagement.

We got engaged in july and are waiting until 2022 also. I want to finish school first and we plan to buy a house too. But I'm looking forward to having plenty of time to plan and not be in a time crunch honestly.

View Quoted Comment I can totally see what you mean, but I think it really depends on the couple. We've been together for 6 years, engaged for 1, and can't get married for at least 3. It doesn't bother us one bit. Our circumstances are way different then most.

I got engaged 31.7.19 and we aren’t getting married until 1st June 2022 in Las Vegas 😍😍😍