Hi there,
We are planning a wedding with only 10 non family guests. They all know each other and are friends (neighbors, frequently have dinner parties, etc with the possible exception of 2 +1's of the non-couples) We would like to rent an estate house for the wedding. Family would stay in rental cabins that are also on the property, and wedding guests could stay in the house for free the whole weekend if they wanted (Fri-Mon). Venue is about 4 hours from where we all live, so they would probably all stay the night of the wedding minimum. But they could come and go as they want, no check in/ check out or timeline.
I love this venue, it's almost perfect. I think it would be so much fun. The ONLY problem, is that in the 5 bedroom house, only one bedroom has it's own bath. Otherwise in the house (and for the one couple that would have to stay in a bedroom in a rental house) there is only one bathroom per 2 bedrooms, so 2 couples would be sharing one bathroom.
Is this unacceptable? Both my sister and fiance completely balked immediately at this saying it was a "problem".
I get that it is not ideal, and I would choose something else if there was anything else even close to what we want. And if they didn't know each other I would also be more hesitant. But this place is otherwise perfect and 1/3 the cost of the other venues we've looked at.
They get to stay for free at this beautiful estate property with all of their friends. If I tell them the situation and they have a problem with it, couldn't they stay somewhere else? If I present it as "if you want to stay, you can stay for free at the house but share a bathroom, or you can stay at this nearby hotel" is that ok? (Nearest inn is 20 min, major city is 30-40)
It seems reasonable to me but I'm horrible at this kind of thing.
And I also worry it is the kind of thing that people say is ok in advance and then grumble about it when it happens and complain we should have been more considerate in choosing a venue.
