My family isn’t overly-emotional to begin with, but when we went over to my parents house to tell them everything about the engagement/details of how my now fiancé asked, etc. they didn’t seem too interested and gave us little attention when trying to tell them.
I’m my parent’s second child; my older sister is married/already had a big wedding and recently had a baby; which is another “first” my parents got to experience and share in the excitement with. (She was over at my parent for the first “staycation with grandma and grandpa” with her baby when we tried telling them, so maybe it was bad timing on our part.) But they just weren’t attentive at all, I’m not saying we can’t spilt our attention, but my dad was in and out of the room half the time we were telling them, and my mom was busy cooing and playing with the baby, and it frustrated me. We couldn’t even really get through telling them the basics or a very shortened version of how we got engaged because of all the distractions.
When we cut the story short out of frustration, my mom said my older sister had been meaning to ask me something important; my sister then proceeded to ask if me and my fiancé would be godparents to her baby. We were excited and said yes, but then continued to have a longer, more involved conversation about that compared to the conversation about our engagement. It just seems as though they’ve done this before and aren’t excited about our engagement/wedding. I know no one will be as excited as we are about it, and again I wasn’t expecting fireworks and backflips from them - just their undivided attention for a couple of minutes to tell them something I’m excited about.
Maybe it’s middle child syndrome or I’m being too sensitive/reading into things, but it’s tainted me wanting to discuss anything wedding related with them.
Side note, my family loves my fiancé, they have been asking when we will get engaged for years. So I don’t think it’s anything to do with that. I just think they are enthralled with the new experience of having their first grandchild and an engagement/wedding is an old hat.
