So my boyfriend and I are recently engaged and very very happy. We're planning a fairly tiny wedding (like no more than 20 people in all likelihood) with pretty much just our church members (my boyfriend and I founded a small Satanic church together and we don't really want the expense and so on of having lots of guests, and my parents just went to the court house with a couple of friends, and my first wedding had maybe 10 people there and was in a courthouse in a hurry for immigration reasons, basically so me and my ex-husband could move in together).
My family lives on the other side of the country, my boyfriend and I are planning on moving back over there in summer of this year to plant another church, so we're a bit tight financially and in something of a hurry. Would it be inexcusable to just have whoever wants to come from church come and go out for food after?