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J.J
Master September 2011

Is it weird to not want a wedding band?

J.J, on December 3, 2009 at 11:50 PM Posted in Planning 0 32

I LOVE my engagement ring and I don't want to change it. I have tried on wedding bands with it but they all just make my ring look well gaudy (sp). Plus I have really small fingers so adding another band to my finger just looks riduculous. Are there any other brides out there who just didn't buy a wedding band?

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Latest activity by Alexis, on August 6, 2021 at 8:30 AM
  • jessica
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    I don't think its weird but have you thought about just wearing a very simple gold or white gold band for your wedding band instead of a band that has dimonds on it just a simple band can make your small hand not look riduculous and that way you still have a band.

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  • J.J
    Master September 2011
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    I have thought about just going with a plain band but it doesn't look right with my ring because i have an eternity band so the diamonds go mostly all the way around it..

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  • Bayridgeqt
    Expert July 2010
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    I don't think I have heard of brides not buying a wedding band but I have heard of brides after the wedding that wear their wedding band and engagement ring on opposite ring fingers. For instance, your wedding band on your left ring finger and your engagement ring on your right ring finger. That may help if you don't like the way they look together.

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  • J.J
    Master September 2011
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    Now theres an idea. I have never heard of or thought of that.

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  • Laura
    Master May 2009
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    I didn't want one either at first. I loved my e ring so much I thought any other band would take away from it. So I was just going to have him put the e ring on my finger at the ceremony as my wedding ring. But then I came across a band I loved and it added to the look of the other ring so we went with that. But I think it's totally ok to have just the one that you want

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  • ladylee
    Master June 2010
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    I know two women who don't wear bands - just their e-rings. one has a HUGE ring the other they couldnt afford it at the time of their wedding. if i had an eternity band i would def wear it solo.

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  • pdids
    Dedicated May 2010
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    I have the same question. My engagement ring is antique and basically has diamonds all over the setting and the band and all of the wedding bands I have tried on look weird with my ring. Is it ok not to have a wedding band?

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  • M
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    Well, One No it isnt weird at least in my Opinion, but "Z" have you tried to get the Bands that are just like Pave Instead of Diamonds just to add a Little something to it.... to make it POP I know what you mean by small fingers, Not me but I girl I work with her fingers are very small, and she has a PAVE style wedding band

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  • yadayada
    Master October 2009
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    Yes of course. It is your hand you can wear whatever you want! I almost didn't get a band for that same reason but in the end I found a plain one I really liked. I have to say that I really like having both, which I didn't think I would. So you never know! But if you can't find anything you like there is nothing wrong with just having the e-ring.

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  • Matt Potvin
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    My wife didn't want a diamond engagement ring, because of the turmoil associated with them. I was happy to oblige that request. She was also happy to have that money put towards purchasing our house. What you wear is totally up to you. Even if you're not wearing anything doesn't mean that you aren't married!

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  • The Potters
    Master September 2009
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    I know a lot of women who only wear one ring. If that is what you like then great! Go for it. Right now, I see 3 women I work with who all wear only one ring. And I know this is true for one of my sisters as well.

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  • J.J
    Master September 2011
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    Thank you all. I feel a lot better now! It made me feel like something was wrong with me since I didn't want an actual wedding band...So thank you all sooo much!

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  • M
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    J.J have you gone to the jewelers to look at wedding bands? They would probably know more about could go w/your ring. We looked at bands last night while my ring was being resized (b/c I have tiny fingers too!) and what I had in mind was something that wouldn't work w/my ring but the guy was really helpful and gave us some opinions to think about. He said he's been doing this for 17 yrs so def knows more than we do lol. Also, they had some really narrow bands (of all types). My mom's wedding band is super narrow that fits right up against the ring, you can hardly tell it's there. For awhile I didn't even realize she had one! If you really don't want a wedding band I don't think that's weird just letting you know there may be options out there in case you think there's a chance you might regret not getting one.

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  • J.J
    Master September 2011
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    Thank you Morgan. We have talked to the jeweler where we bought my engagement ring and they didn't have anything that I liked or any ideas that made me happy. We have a credit card through them and that is why we want to stick with them. You are right though I think I will regret not getting one later on. At least I still have some time though.

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  • Danielle S
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    Yes you do have plenty of time and I think really you need to do what will make you the most happy. If you want one and find one you want then go for it but then if you choose to just have the engagement ring that is fine too. It is whatever you like and whatever decision you make will be the right one for you.

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  • sweet_firefly
    Expert November 2009
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    I'm not wearing a wedding band. My engagement ring has 5 stones and the side has a design. I tried on bands with it (even really simple, thin bands), and I didn't like the way they looked together. They just didn't sit right. I've thought about having a band custom made, but I'm cheap right now.

    My mom also just wears her engagment ring.

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  • JJ
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    I think it's perfectly fine. My sis and her fh just want the e ring for the ceremony too and forever. My band is blingy enough to wear alone, when the babies come and for traveling....my e ring has one diamond and a classic design. so it looks fine with anything. It's ok not to have a wedding band though...some women I know never got an engagement ring and only got a plain band. it's different for everyone, just like a wedding.

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  • Not-A-Bridezilla
    Master May 2010
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    I agree with everyone-- go with whatever you like.

    One suggestion though-- I know you said you have a credit card with a specific jeweler so I completely understand why you would want to go with them (we did the same thing). However, before you make ur your mind either way, I encourage you to shop around. Right now alot of department stores (such as JCPenney) are having jewelry sales that will probably run past Christmas. So if I were you I would look around-- if you find something that you like it won't be as big of a deal if it isn't on the credit card because it's on sale!

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  • bay
    Expert November 2009
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    Perhaps you could get a wedding band to wear by itself if you should decide to wear the e ring on another finger, tuck it away for the day or if it's with the jeweler for any reason. That way you won't regret not getting one. I wouldn't feel obligated to wear them both. There are many women with custom or large e rings that skip the band altogether. As long as you and your FH are ok with it I wouldn't worry if I were you.

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  • The Potters
    Master September 2009
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    Like I said earlier, LOTS of women don't have wedding rings. Maybe after 10 years upgrade to a set of rings that you love and go together well. Or if you think you'll regret not having one, wear your e ring on a necklace and your wedding ring on your hand. Personally, I'd stick with just the e ring if that is what you want.

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