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Abbey
Beginner June 2020

Is my dress "right" for my situation?

Abbey, on January 5, 2020 at 8:14 AM

Posted in Wedding Attire 236

Hello everyone, A little background... I'm 37 years old, mother of two, and this is my second wedding. It's in 5 months and the ceremony will be in a garden outside a banquet hall. I was married too young the first time around and always felt my dress looked too frumpy/cute. This time around, I...

Hello everyone,

A little background... I'm 37 years old, mother of two, and this is my second wedding. It's in 5 months and the ceremony will be in a garden outside a banquet hall. I was married too young the first time around and always felt my dress looked too frumpy/cute. This time around, I feel like a "woman" and I'm less (but not by much) modest nowadays. I am not into fashion and having 15 years between weddings makes me feel out of touch. I'm literally the only female in my family (my fiance, two sons, my brother, his partner, my father, and three male cats), so I don't get girly often.

Dress shopping was emotionally charged as I lost my mother a year and a half ago to cancer. I was really missing her presence and I felt uneasy the whole experience. She was my best friend. She always said I needed A-line in everything (I'm pear shaped with a short torso). (Photos are pre-alteration).


I had two girlfriends with me who are so positive and way more up to date than I am on trends etc. When I put it on, my friends and the store stylist raved about how amazing it was. I felt confident and beautiful. I know my fiance would love the back especially Smiley winking I left feeling like I got a steal. I'm also on a budget. I bought this dress off the rack, and got 60% off. I have a friend that can do alterations affordably.


In true "me" fashion, I'm now second guessing the whole thing. My brain is fretting: Sale is final. It's too revealing. It's not right for my age. It's not what I had originally planned (modest, sleeves, mature). I have no business wearing something sexy. My mother wouldn't have approved. My back is exposed. Will I be able to dance? I've never worn anything form fitting before.... and on and on.


Now, my sons are more excited about the wedding and their roles in it than me sometimes. They have been so happy about me marrying their "bonus dad." Their dad and I had a strange, platonic, marriage and so they don't understand and aren't old enough to get that I want to be attractive for my new husband. I showed my ten year old and he said, "Mumma! Why do you want to be see through!!" and he looked uncomfortable. I asked my cute little jumping bean of a 7 year old, "do you like mommy's dress?" He smiled and said, "Nope!" and ran off to play some more. That's what has me the most worried.


I would love your honest opinions, because I'm clueless. I won't be hurt! But I'm pressed for time and I really need to be at ease. If that means shopping again, I should do it soon, and find a way to resell before it gets altered. Thanks!

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236 Comments

  • Jennifer
    Super October 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    That dress is STUNNING on you!
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  • Erin
    VIP September 2023
    Erin ·
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    That dress is absolutely gorgeous and it looks amazing on you. From what I've seen, boys of that age tend to think anything related to women and women's clothes is "gross" or "ugly" haha. The dress is tastefully sexy, and I think it's absolutely perfect.

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  • K
    Expert September 2021
    Ka-Rina ·
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    Ok from reading your post I expected to see a full see thru corsette type dress with your boobs hanging out haha the dress is elegant and beautiful. I don't think it's revealing. You do look sexy but in an elegant type of way. Love it
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  • Ashlee
    Savvy June 2020
    Ashlee ·
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    It looks beautiful on you!! Don't second guess it!

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  • Alexandra
    Devoted July 2021
    Alexandra ·
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    Hello, gorgeous!! This dress is everything on you!
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  • Danielle
    Expert November 2020
    Danielle ·
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    It’s beautiful! I hope you enjoy your wedding.
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    Savvy October 2021
    Almarina ·
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    You look gorgeous!!! Don’t return it!
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  • Shariyahmom
    Dedicated October 2022
    Shariyahmom ·
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    You look awesome!!! I love that dress
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  • Danica
    Beginner October 2020
    Danica ·
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    This dress is absolutely gorgeous on you!
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  • Leslie
    Just Said Yes October 2022
    Leslie ·
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    You look amazing and the dress is beautiful! It looks like you really love it in the pictures. Keep it! 😊
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  • Robyn
    Just Said Yes February 2022
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    You look gorgeous and the dress is beautiful. Your 7 year old son might prefer that you dress up as Captain Marvel or Wonder Woman, so don't let his opinion hold too much weight.
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  • Kayleigh
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Kayleigh ·
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    You honestly look gorgeous in it!!! It fits you perfectly! It’s definitely not too revealing in my opinion as long as you feel beautiful and confident in it that’s all that should matter!
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  • Suzie
    Super October 2021
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    Agreed with Mandi. You’re gorgeous!

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  • Stacey
    Devoted July 2020
    Stacey ·
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    I’m in a similar situation like you but a bit older. You are rocking it and look amazing. I don’t think it’s to revealing at all. It’s gorgeous! Enjoy feeling amazing.
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  • C
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Courtney ·
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    This looks Aaammmmaaazziinngg on u
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  • Ally
    Just Said Yes September 2021
    Ally ·
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    You look so beautiful!!!
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  • Alycia
    Expert September 2021
    Alycia ·
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    Girl, that dress was made for you. You look stunning 😍 truly gorgeous. You need to wear that deess, trust me.
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  • Kiara
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Kiara ·
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    You look amazing!
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  • Brooke
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Brooke ·
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    I honestly believe its BEAUTIFUL on you and you would be crazy to find a new one it is not revealing at all! If the front being low is what bothers you they can always add a mesh insert! You have to start remembering the way you felt when you tried it on and what the things you liked about it were and why you decided on it in the first place! If it would of been the wrong dress for you then you would of said no from the beginning... You are stunning in this dress and your future husband will LOVE it!

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  • M
    Just Said Yes September 2021
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    You look stunning in that dress! ❤️😩
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