Is my dress too “booby”?

I think this is going to be a very personal choice. The most important thing here is what you think you'll feel most beautiful, confident and special in on your wedding day!

For me, I have a similar situation myself, and I find I don't like the very protracted staring I get when I wear lower cut things, and it would make me extremely uncomfortable if my new extended family was staring at me that way on my wedding day, so I wouldn't want something super low cut because of the way it would make me feel.

But equally, some people love that 'double take' reaction, feel completely ok with it or don't even notice! Whether this dress is sufficiently low cut to you, to make you feel that way... only you can know!

And of course, as the old saying goes, if you've got it, flaunt it, right?

It’s definitely a personal decision. Some people will say that is not remotely revealing and others will say it’s too much skin. I understand what you mean about being top heavy and I personally would not feel comfortable at all showing that much cleavage to anyone except fiancé. If you want, the seamstress can add a modesty panel in front without affecting the style and you can work with them on the amount of transparency you’re comfortable with.

View Quoted Comment See that is such a good way of explaining it! It’s not that IM uncomfortable, it’s that they way people might perceive it will make me uncomfortable. Haha

View Quoted Comment I was thinking about a modesty panel! I wonder if they could do a mesh one…

I think that when the straps are adjusted (if they haven't been) that this won't be much of a problem at all. Can you wear a minimizer bra under your dress? And there are always modesty panels too. Just ask your seamstress - maybe use the panel for the ceremony and for the reception cut loose and proudly display the girls. I think you look amazing!

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Yes, exactly! But if you often wear things like that then likely these people won't be shocked, you know? Whereas, if you're usually super covered up and then are like BAM on your wedding day, it might just be a huge surprise. I've often found people can't stop staring, even when they know I can see them staring. It's like they can't help themselves. Hell, I've done it myself to other people!

I also agree with the other posters, you could have a sheer panel put in! You can decide how many layers of tulle until it reaches the level of opacity you like!

View Quoted Comment I think I may do that! I have plenty of time so I don’t think it would be a problem!

View Quoted Comment They actually haven’t been adjusted yet, maybe that will help! And I have literally never heard of a minimizer bra but it sounds like something I need in my life lol

I am big busted like you and the reality for people like us is that even in things that aren't necessarily revealing, they become revealing the moment we put them on because there is just a lot of boob that is hard to hide!

The way I see it, you have been graced with good assets and if they are on display, so long as YOU are happy that is all that matters. At the end of the day it is just skin and if anyone has a problem, that is their problem, not yours. Personally, I think you look fab!

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Just to help you! Those of us in the BB (big-breast/boob) club are here for this. HA!

I think it looks great if you want they can put in a modesty panel to help with the cleavage but you look amazing

I think this depends completely on how you feel in the dress. But, my personal opinion, it looks fantastic! I would never look at you and think “OMG, that girl is showing a lot of boob!” lol Not to mention, this is your wedding… if you can’t be a little extra on your wedding day, when can you be!?
If it makes you feel uncomfortable however you could always ask your seamstress to do a mock up of a sheer, skin-toned modesty panel to see if you like it/feel more comfortable. I’ve just found modesty panels on many dresses look like a strange, tacked-on afterthought that ruin the beautiful necklines of the dress.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I love the neckline too I think I’m just worried for a million other reasons haha

View Quoted Comment If you think maybe you’re worried about other things and projecting it onto the dress, I would hold off on modifying the dress! A modesty panel is super easy for a seamstress to put in- you don’t need to decide until you go in for your first alterations appointment. Try on your dress several times between now and then. Seeing yourself multiple times in it well either make you comfortable with the cleavage, or make you 100% certain you aren’t comfortable in it.

I had to remind myself that I had a very different view than everyone else. When I looked down at myself in my dress all I could see was boob and was afraid it was too much. Noone else has that specific viewpoint.

I think the reveal is just right. Your wedding day is going to be a day like no other that you don't intend to repeat. That being said, it's the ultimate day to get out of your comfort zone. This dress says "I'm a grown-up, but I still look presentable." Trust me, I've seen far more revealing dresses. I think this is quite tasteful, and from what I can tell, it looks great on you!

View Quoted Comment Honestly, the I’m grown up part of this comment means so much to me hahaha I was having trouble buying a dress because I felt like a little kid trying on her moms wedding dress in everything I put on!

View Quoted Comment That’s such a good point!

View Quoted Comment That’s a good point . I should try it on a few more times!