Is there really a perfect and magical wedding?

I guess it helped that I've worked in the industry and have been around so many weddings. There were still some unexpected feelings and stress to say the least leading up to it and on the day of...I forgot to mention I had an anxiety episode hit right in the middle of our portrait session (not at all how I wanted to feel on our wedding day) but needless to say the photos turned out great even though I wasn't feeling my best. The hardest part for me was planning everything up until the day of and then just surrendering control and allowing those we had hired or trusted to take on certain roles to carry out our vision.

And again, I'm so sorry (just re-reading over your experience). No bride should be brought to stressful or unhappy tears on her wedding day. There should be tears of joy. But the reality is it does happen because weddings can/do bring out feelings you've never experienced before, and it's a blend with what your expectations are.

I would write honest reviews but take it with a grain of salt too...maybe once you've cooled down and can compose an honest review in a collective manner.

I haven't posted an official BAM yet, but I have similar feelings! We had to change two pretty big parts about the wedding (no DJ/dancing, and cut the guest list by 100 people), plus the addition of masks/safety precautions, so I already had pretty tempered expectations.

But I spent a lot of the day stressed due to 2 vendor issues and couldn't relax for photos.

While the ceremony was easily one of the best moments of my life, I would not describe the overall day as "the best day ever!" or perfect or magical in any way.

Though I am so, so glad it's over with!

I’m sorry your day wasn’t all you imagined it to be. It may not have been perfect, but I’m sure it was still special. You told us about everything that went wrong, but try to focus on what went right (and share the details of those things if you you want to - we’d love to hear it). I bet focusing on those things will warm your heart and make you smile despite the things that went wrong. Congratulations and many blessings to you!

I think all weddings will have some kind of hiccup to them. so i definitely felt like mine had things that went wrong but overall i am glad to have been able to have that memory

Congrats!

I'm sorry things went wrong, though.

DH and I are very open about how our day *was* perfect. But we also were really aggressive about doing things our way, NOT expecting perfection, and focusing on our 3 goals for the day (1. Be legally married 2. Guests have good food 3. Have a swordfight).

We also got lucky, because the main source of drama stopped speaking to us 2 months before the wedding (my mother).

We're also in theatre, and to us, the wedding was just a really big show. Things always go sideways in live theatre, but that's one of the reasons we love it.

I agree with others, try to focus on the good things, and the bad things will eventually become a bit of a joke.

I think with more time your perspective might change. I spent most of my wedding nervous and anxious. I was calm in the morning but it got worse as the day went on. Then I relaxed and enjoyed the reception. I was nervous for the next week wondering if people enjoyed themselves and if anyone got covid. I was a wreck. I'm also not a real emotional/sentimental person- more of the anxious type.

Now that I'm further out I realize it was nice to be around my friends and family and those parts were magical. Spending time with people I hadn't seen in so long due to covid was amazing.

I think the catch is that most brides that talk about their perfect day have had some years pass since they last got married.

It is still fresh right now.

In a couple of years when you look at all the photos you are probably also going to look fondly on it and think about how wonderful it was because that is what the pictures capture.

Congratulations!!!! ☺️