Is this Normal

I think this is fairly normal. Heck, there are thinks I want to change about much lower-stakes parties that happened much longer ago. I think that’s how brains are wired, and I think there is nothing wrong about your second guesses. Just keep them in mind if you ever decide to renew your vows!

I suppose it’s like anything else… You can’t change the past. But the exciting thing is that your married your love. That was the real goal of the wedding and it was achieved. So the next step in your wonderful journey is enjoying the newlywed life and putting energy into your marriage. And as the saying goes, “There’s a reason why the windshield is larger than the rearview mirror. Where you’re going is so much better than where you’ve been.”

I went to a bridal show tonight and one of the ladies running it said she was having a vow renewal every 5 years. She didn't get everything she wanted at the wedding, so she's just going to redo it every 5 years til she feel like she did it right.


THAT IS INSANE.
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View Quoted Comment That is crazy! I definitely wouldn't do that. I can see renewing your vows, but definitely not every 5 years.

View Quoted Comment Interesting! FH and I discussed regularly renewing our vows either every 2 or 5 years, as a reminder of our promises to one another and simply as a way to celebrate our anniversary. But, it wouldn’t be a big wedding attempting to redo the original. Instead, just something simple with a few close friends and then go to dinner. However, FH and I already host about 3 parties at our house per year. So celebrations and gatherings are normal (and expected) with us.

Totally normal! I get into moods like this all the time hahaha. I think it’s best to just focus on what was wonderful about the day AND remember that at least the stress of planning is over. Even if you would change things if could go back in time, you CANT go back in time so dwelling on it is just going to stress you out for no reason.

Yup! When I got my pics back I obsessed for a while on things I wish I could have changed. It gets better with time. 🤪

Normal. Aha I get into those moods where I think about what I wish I would've done

The only thing that did not go exactly as planned was me. I messed up. Everyone laughed. Including us. And hubby said he would marry me anyway. ( Really what he said, instead of our carefully written vows.). But I remember the bubbling over with laughter, after the initial "oh my God" moment. Alas, I take me with me wherever I go. Can't change or redo that.

I’ve been married 3 months now. I think about my wedding constantly, however, I wouldn’t change a single thing. I just want to do it over and over again because I loved it so much.

Been married for a year and half and still have days where I wish I had done this or that. I think a lot of it boils down to I am a perfectionist. My wedding wasn't a disaster, but it definitely wasn't what I had been hoping, planning, and dreaming of. Mostly because I feel like we settled in a lot of areas and we don't have any photos to remember the day by....

We chose the wrong photographer but can't complain since it was my uncle and he did our photos for free....BIG MISTAKE! I have tried talking to my husband about doing a vow renewal at year 5, but he keeps saying 10..so it's aggravating. I want a simple vow renewal since our wedding was large and we missed a lot of intimate moments. My mom keep saying she has a camera and we can just go back to the wedding venue and take photos, but honestly that doesn't even appease me. In addition, the venue was a big part of the problem. (Side note venue owner wasn't happy about honest review so there is no going back to that place).

I think everyone has days where they wish something had been different unfortunately that's life. All we can do is move forward and hope for happiness. Like me hoping hubby changes his mind and we do a 5 year renewal instead of 10 years....lol

The wedding was 1 day, marriage is a life time. Better off not stressing that kind of stuff. Everyone is different tho.