Is this rude??

1. What is a normal amount of time for each speech?? Mmmm I am unsure as I rarely listen lol. I tell my graduating seniors to keep it no more than 3 minutes.
2. Is it rude to give my people time limits to their speeches or should I just let them have as much time as they want and risk going over time?? Hmmm...honestly I would nicely ask them to keep it at 3 minutes but truthfully that could be frustrating to plan that out so I would let them talk as long as they want and if they ask then give them a limit. Can you cut time in other areas?
3. If its not rude, what’s a good way to tell my people about their speech time limits without sounding like a Karen? Well see what others think but if you choose then next time to you speak to them just nicely mention that you appreciate them making a speech at your wedding but you just reviewed the timeline and realized that time is limited. Would they mind keep the speech to about three minutes or under? You are sorry to put that pressure on them but you want to be sure you do not go over time limit for venue purposes or whatever it may be.

Speeches for weddings i don't feel normally take that long and besides, the people giving them might not even want to have it long. i know my MOH only spoke for like a minute.

i think it's fine to give them a time limit! maybe just first ask them though how much time they need for their speech since it might be short anyway

I don't think it's rude at all to give people a time limit, most weddings I have been involved in have had this type of rule and it did help to keep things on track. I mean you almost always have one person who could ramble on for hours without noticing, so a heads up that they have X amount of time at least lets them plan it out. I would say 3-5 minutes is reasonable, most people probably wouldn't need that much time anyways. I agree with Melle that asking them how long they think they would need is a good idea.

You want to make sure you are out of the venue on time?? In my opinion that is a lot of people giving speeches. Of all the weddings I have been to it has only been the best man and MOH. I would maybe nicely say that you went over the timeline and due to ensure we finish by this time would you please keep the speech 2-3 minutes. Some people can go overboard (I would give leeway to parents if they do go over the day of. Truthfully I do not want to hear someone talk past 2 minutes ha ha.

What if you save the speeches for the rehearsal dinner and than skip the speeches at the wedding ?

Girl I cannot do long speeches lol. Ain't nobody trying to hear all that. I mean say some lovely words but if it trails on...I am talking to the person next to me ha ha.

1. What is a normal amount of time for each speech? I was told 2-5 minutes but we didn't limit their speeches. I think the MOH knew that and communicated it to the best man too.
2. Is it rude to give my people time limits to their speeches or should I just let them have as much time as they want and risk going over time?? I think most people are aware they shouldn't give a 10+ minute speech.
3. If its not rude, what’s a good way to tell my people about their speech time limits without sounding like a Karen? If you have someone you think will need to be specifically told, I'd have the DJ or the wedding coordinator or the MOH tell them.

I'm a college professor and have taught Public Speaking for over 25 yrs, 3 minutes MAX is an excellent time constraint for a "toast" which is what wedding speakers should give, not "speeches." Daughter & SIL gave their 2 best men and 2 MOHs each 3 minutes (so, 2 BM had a total of 3 min.) and that is plenty. At daughter and SIL's wedding, they broke things up as a pp suggested. The FOB gave a max 3 min toast/welcome (on behalf of all four parents) prior to dinner. After dinner, the BM and MOHs each gave their less than 3 min toasts and B&G finished up with a 2 min thank you to everyone for attending. I strongly encourage limiting the total number of people who are speaking to a couple minutes each. Guests do NOT want to sit and listen to people ramble (we've attended THAT wedding and it was awful). If there are others who are just dying to TALK, let them do so at the rehearsal dinner. Good luck!