Is "wedding Planning Depression" normal?

How long have you had these feelings?? You have quite a ways to go. Are you sure this isn’t just a phase? Sometimes brides go through emotional roller coasters about planning… Especially the fact that your wedding is pretty far away still. I would strongly suggest giving it a month or two… Maybe even three months to really let it sink in to see if your feelings are legit. You certainly do not need a wedding if you don’t want one, but these feelings are very common and typically do pass

I have gone through this a couple of times but i am also a covid bride! At first it was when I saw prices of venues/vendors (we are pressing for the wedding ourself). Things finally sorted out and then covid hit! Its just exhausting having to constantly reach out to people, made changes, rely on people etc. Take a small break from wedding planning and see if that helps! I feel like we all go through the ups and downs of it all.

I felt so overwhelmed in the beginning and I just could not make any decisions. I was researching and comparing costs and trying so hard to figure it all out and honestly, I just needed to step away from it for a bit. It wasn’t fun and I wanted it to be so much. I took about a month and then started back at it and got my maid of honor involved more and it became super fun again. Now I’m enjoying every second. You have some time, so maybe try to just take a little break from planning and hopefully that will help you start again with excitement.

I was extremely over whelmed in the beginning of wedding planning because I was comparing prices of venues (we are paying for the majority of our wedding & I was never a girl who fantasize about her “big day”) I ended up having a melt down in the kitchen with my fiancé because I had no idea what I wanted and everyone kept telling me what I should be doing and when I should be doing it. So my fiancé and I decided that we would drop wedding planning for awhile and go on a weekend get away to remind ourselves of why we wanted to get married in the first place. I would recommend stepping away for a while and see if it helps, so when you pick it back up you are excited again!

I'm super overwhelmed right now and finding the whole thing horrific to be honest! We've been engaged over a year and suddenly (we're in the UK and lockdown's only just ended) we only have 3 months left to do EVERYTHING - go to a food tasting, meet a florist, find a band/DJ, get fitted in a dress/suit, etc. Like we had sooooooo much time and 99% of it's been eaten by sitting in our flat on mandatory lockdown Been too scared to just make all these big decisions online.

But the worst part? I feel like I've made a huge mistake overall. I'm a massive introvert (like painfully so), and my fiance is introverted too. I've literally never had a party in my life (other than as a kid), but I always had this vision/dream of a big white wedding like you see in the movies - so I pushed for one. And we sent save the dates to 100+ people. And now I'm FREAKING OUT. I feel like everyone's gonna turn up and hate the event because it was planned by someone who's never planned an event before, I feel like people are gonna think I'm rude/stuck up/unfriendly because I'm not a good talker and have no idea how to work a room (going up to people's tables terrifies me), I can't even stand up without my legs going to jelly so no idea how to deal with walking down the aisle and standing for the vows. And I feel like people might just generally find the whole thing boring because neither my partner nor I are anything remotely like the kind of people who get a party going on a dancefloor, etc.

I just wanted one chance for all my friends and family see me celebrate getting married to the love of my life - but now that things are getting real I'm getting unbelievably sad and anxious. Like part of me prays we'll be affected by covid and have to cut numbers/elope. Which is really sad.

Wow I guess I needed to get A LOT out.

TLDR: You're definitely not alone with hating everything right now. And it's important to be honest with yourself. At least you've got bags of time to hopefully make that dream a reality - and more! I hope these feelings disappear asap for you.

Yes, 100% yes. I’ve gone in major waves of not necessarily ‘excited’ planning but at least enjoyable planning but most of the time I absolutely hate it.


I love planning in general but I hate planning a huge event where everyone is coming in with this expectation that I have a “dream vision” and that it’s supposed to be my perfect dream day 🙄😑 no.
I’ve never dreamed about a wedding growing up, I don’t have a theme, I don’t expect or want this to be the-best-day-ever. I still want to have a lovely and memorable day, I want all our friends and family to have a good time but I am just so over the pressure from everyone acting like I should be ecstatic to be planning some ultra dream-day event - it’s ridiculous.
I would say just take a break. I ended up having to make a categorized list of things I’m excited to plan, things I’m neutral towards, and things I’ve been dreading having to plan and decide. If I get overwhelmed I go back to something I’m excited about for some balance. I won’t say that that’ll it’ll definitely get fun a again, but I think planning on chunks and then giving yourself breaks to just not think about wedding stuff definitely makes it more manageable! 🤗

I have so many ups and downs with this whole thing. I always though it would be a dream to plan a wedding. Then I got engaged and then COVID. Some days I just don't even think about it. It can be hard since that seems to be a topic everyone always brings up to me. But I do everything in small pieces and focus on small projects one at a time. We have just about 208 days left. My advice is just do things one at a time. Follow the time line guide on wedding wire or other bridal websites and just tackle one task at a time, then take a small break. It can be a lot and depending on where you are living right now there are still a lot of unknowns. It will be worth it when the day comes!

Yes, it seems many of us have felt it, so you're normal to not feel happy 100% of the time. Long-term planning stinks. It's COVID year, it's not a typical year. It's all okay. Take deep breaths, and set calendar notifications so you can live your life apart from planning.

My story: I kept my engagement secret to others except my parents for 2 months because I couldn't imagine a party when I've had so many deaths in the family this year. You'll be happy again, I promise. Love makes life liveable.

Best wishes, Bride!