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Issues with Bridespeople

Rachelle, on July 29, 2019 at 2:31 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 8

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I'm just going to go out here first and say, "This is more or less just venting and getting opinions of other brides." So, if you read this, Thank you.

The wedding is in less than 2 months. This coming weekend is our Wedding Shower (bride & groom) and my bachelorette party. I have 6 people on my side - 5 female, 1 male. Out of those 6, only 2 will be coming to either one.

Long story short: They tried to find a date that worked for all of them. They settled one and agreed to show up. One was most likely unable to attend, and that was okay. I get it. One tells me last month that her orders (military) have her leaving right before. That is also, 100% fine. One tells me she won't be attending either. No explanation. One won't show up either. Down to 2 (my MOH and my acting MOH b/c the actual one hasn't helped).

Now one says she will be in the state, available during the time of the events, but is choosing not to go.

Am I nuts for being a little peeved? I mean, they decided a date for the whole thing, they agreed and made a commitment. (Mind you, they're all within 100mi radius and I don't mind going and picking them up.) The whole thing has just been a nightmare of no one communicating with each other.

Any input or reassurance or "girl, you're being crazy" helps. Thank you.

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Latest activity by Rachelle, on July 29, 2019 at 4:08 PM

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Caytlyn · on July 29, 2019 at 2:37 PM
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I can see how it's bothersome, but I would just choose to focus on those who can make it instead of those who can't.
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Courtney · on July 29, 2019 at 2:54 PM
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No I don’t think you’re being crazy. We’ve been dealing with a bit of, I’ll call it “limited flexibility” (lol) from family members recently and I realized it that it will only bother you as much as you let it. Have a fun time with the ones that can make it!
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Mandi · on July 29, 2019 at 3:07 PM
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It's normal to be disappointed when plans don't work out. However, remember that these events are not mandatory by any means and sometimes things come up that take priority. Just focus on enjoying the company of those who can make it.
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Rachelle · on July 29, 2019 at 3:13 PM
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Thank you!
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Rachelle · on July 29, 2019 at 3:13 PM
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Definitely right. Thank you so much!
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Rachelle · on July 29, 2019 at 3:14 PM
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This seriously does help--as silly as it may sound. Thank you for your kind words and input.
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Cher Horowitz · on July 29, 2019 at 4:02 PM
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That would irk my nerves too if they agreed on a date and weren't able to come on said date. Of course, some of your BP's situations were out of their control, which is good that you realize it! Try to focus on the people who can come!
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Rachelle · on July 29, 2019 at 4:08 PM
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Thank you, Cher! I'll be honest, it was a bit disheartening. The MOH wasn't trying to plan a date b/c of things that were going on in her life (divorce right after I asked her to be MOH), my poor bridesmaid that stepped up to the plate was trying to corral people and get them to communicate. That, and she had to deal with my soon to be MIL--which is no easy task (matriarch). Poor girl was crying at one point when everyone was at disagreement after making an executive decision. We're (my fiance and I) really trying to make the events super budget-friendly & low-key but everyone has been clashing heads. Many a bottle of wine have been polished off lol.
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