So my wedding isn't for about another year. We're getting married January 16, 2021. I'm very concerned about the guest list already though. My mom comes from a huge family...she's the oldest of 7 children, and both her mom and dad's side have about 7 kids in the family as well. She wants all these people invited including their children (her cousins). I understand her wanting that because she's a social butterfly and loves to be with her family and everything. I, however, have tons of anxiety just THINKING about it. So far, our guest list is at 260 people if we invite everyone on it, and that's barely with any of her cousins on the list yet. She and my dad are paying for a large portion of the wedding, so I feel like she should get a say in who comes, but I've always told her that I do not want a lot of people there that she wants because I barely know them and could truly wouldn't care if they were there or not. It sounds harsh, but we're talking about people that I haven't seen since I was probably 15 or so because I always skip out on the huge family reunions. (I'm 23 now). My mom and I are VERY close, and I've voiced my opinion to her, but she's also like "yes, but we were invited to their wedding" and blah blah. She's also living by this rule of "about 1/4 of the people you invite won't come anyway" but I don't want to look at it that way because what happens when all of her family says they're coming? I'm just so upset about having to fight with her about it when she's one of my best friends and she knows I don't want that. It's also supposed to be MY wedding and I don't want myself OR my parents to pay $28/person when I don't even care if they are there or not. I'd rather be spending that money toward other expenses. I just want to be myself with my friends and family that I care about, and I don't want to have to act a different way on my wedding day because of these people she wants there. I told her that a lot of the forums on here say that if I haven't seen or spoken to a person in a year, I shouldn't invite them, but she just brought up the fact that my grandpa was in the hospital last night, so we never know when someone won't be with us anymore. (my grandpa is obviously invited, she was just using him as an example). We haven't even had my fiance's parents go over the list quite yet either, so who knows how many people they'll be adding too. It's just stressing me out so much and I don't know how to stand my ground with her or come to a solution. Has anyone had this issue with their parents/in laws by chance? How did you overcome it? Thank you in advance!
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