It’s the thought!? Right?

You need to let this go. While gifts are nice, they’re not required and bringing this up in a situation that already sounds a bit strained is probably only going to make your relationship with your daughter worse.

Gifts are not required, it was nice of her to get a card and celebrate your wedding with you.

I think you need to let it go otherwise it may put a wedge in your relationship with your daughter. ❤️

Agree with the others- let this one go.

Expecting a gift from anyone, especially your grown child, is a very immature and entitled attitude. You're not owed anything. You got a card, which meets the etiquette requirements.

I'm so sorry your kids are acting this way. Let this gift thing go. Your FH just doesn't like seeing your feelings hurt. I think you should let go of any expectations for your kids. Y'all raised these kids the best you could but there are external things you just can't control, like the ex taking them on vacation (wow). Live your lives in newlywed bliss and pray that they get therapy. One day they will wake up and apologize, probably when their kids become teenagers.

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For the record I wasn't expecting anything & I agree I am "owed nothing". After all children don't "ask" their parents to be born. I wasn't wanting to make things worse and I feel my hurt has much more to do with accepting what it is and letting go of my thoughts of "what could have been" with respect to the relationship than the card or gift.

I expect NOTHING from anyone & then I don't get disappointed and sometimes pleasantly surprised. I will let it go and continue to do what I can to maintain relationships with people that are important to me the best I can ~ given that I am only half of any relationship I am in ~ that is all I can do.

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You are totally right! Raising 5 of them mostly as a single parent is something I would NEVER wish on my worst enemy! (the 3 who have kids are all "one & done" the other 2 don't want any ~ LOL ~ parenting is very hard work!)

View Quoted Comment I cannot imagine! I raised one on my own and I completely understand the one and done vibe! You deserve all the happiness in the world. ❤️

I wouldn’t expect a gift from my children for my wedding.

Welllll, no one owes you a gift, even your kids, so if that's really what this is all about it's best to leave it alone. She was there, she got you a card, be happy.

Why would your husband be upset at a daughter who came to the wedding and gave a card after. Maybe he is displacing his anger at his own children on her. At least she came and acknowledged your day. It sounds like your relationships are all challenging. That in itself is hard, I agree that graciously accepting her card is in everyone's best interest.

Let it go. Cards and gifts are optional to begin with but people have up to a year after the wedding to give you gifts.

I think to expect something a little more from your kids than a signature on a card for your wedding is normal! I’ve seen a lot of adult kids totally take their parents for granted these days. It’s mind boggling. I think it’s fine to address the hurt that for such a big important moment you were hoping for more (like a thoughtful card, extra time spent together, etc). But maybe talk to a counselor to see how to phrase it and if you should set future expectations? Like getting a gift now would feel forced but maybe you can ask for 1:1 time to talk about your wedding, or something that celebrates or focuses on you?

I am sorry your relationship with your daughter is strained. Do you think it is beyond repair? I get the feeling that her showing up at the wedding, playing nice with others, and a giving you a generic card was the best she could force herself do. I know it is hurtful. I certainly would not say anything to her except to thank her for attending and giving you a card. I hope it gets better with time.

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I agree with this 100%. Gifts are nice but not required. & is it worth making the relationship worst? At least she came to the wedding.

Only you know the actual state of your relationship with your daughter, but I can't think of any benefit to either of you to "addressing" this in any way. Leave it alone and ask your husband to do so, too. Work on strengthening your relationship with her going forward, if that is your goal, but do so without bringing up any resentment about the lack of gift.

Also, I would stop complaining about your kids to your new husband because at the end of the day, you will probably forgive them anything, but he might hold onto all of these hurt feelings long past when you have let them go.

Let it go. Is this fight worth it? Let's say you confront her, either she'll get you a gift because you forced her or she'll be mad you asked and you'll cause a major rift. Or both might happen. It's not worth it. You're the parents and she's the child adult or not.

"Addressing" this is only going to end badly. I very much doubt you'll benefit in any way from this.