I've already had guests ask to bring extra people - true or false?

False, not yet

My sister told me her friend wants to come. I told her she'll have to pay for dinner (a sarcastic no). I've also told people to leave their children at home.

Somewhat true. I’ve heard it through the grapevine that one was upset that he didn’t get a plus one, but luckily didn’t ask us for one.

False. But we have had guests invite themselves!

True! I've had three people ask to bring someone, then we had some friends asks if they could show up. I don't understand the thought process to some people sometimes if you think it's okay to just "show up" to someone's wedding

True - I had a cousin who came at me three time to bring her adult son and his wife. She tried to manipulate me big time and I was ready to say to skip the whole thing but she relented. She can be like that is many ways, lol.

People think they can bring their neighbors, their vet and their dentist for some reason.

True! And from people you would never expect it from lol.

True. I've never met 98% of FH's family, so his mom gave me a list of people to invite. Which I have made it clear that the guest list is final and can only add people if others are removed. Anyway, we sent save the dates and a family member of FH's calls his mom and (doesn't ask) says that his two daughters (thankfully over 18 since we are not having children there) are coming with him. We're allowing it because he would be coming alone, but uh last I checked you don't get to tell us who is coming with you if the save the date only says your name. I would have much rather he asked. I also had a cousin ask if plus ones were allowed, I told her that right now, no. She has a boyfriend, but I'm only inviting him when I know they are still together when invites get sent out and if her parents approve (since they would have to bring him and house him for the night as they are from out of state).

True. My mom asked if she could bring a customer that is in her eighties that frequently her place of work. I’m like sure why not😂

True. And we just had a couple tell us that they can’t make it but their son and his wife (who were not invited) will take their place. 🤦🏼‍♀️

False (so far!) but I have had people tell me, "I better be invited!" …and whether they are or not, that comment really gets under my skin!

Not exactly. A couple of people just couldn't make it so, they added someone else to take their place. At the end of the day it wasn't going to cost me anything extra and I wanted my guests to be comfortable. 1 or 2 people that I dont really know doesn't bother me, especially if they are not extras. Just taking someone's place.

Yes, it has happened about once or twice. Surprisingly not any more. It may happen more as the months go on, but we're not going to give in.

True. I honestly didn’t think this was going to be an issue for us because we invited single people with a plus one and we invited kids. My aunt decided her 15 year old son “deserves” to bring his girlfriend of 2 months because “all the other cousins are bringing theirs” and she made a big deal about it at a recent family party. All my other cousins are in their late 20s/early 30s. No your teenager can’t bring the girl he just met this summer that no one knew existed until you caused drama about my wedding.

True!! But a good true!!

FH and his family are from South America, and we only thought 3 members of his family would be joining us here in Georgia. But now we’ve come to find out it’s going to be more like 10!! His mom asked if we could extend them invitations, and I’m like OF COURSE!! I’m so excited because FH hasn’t been back to see his family in 5 years, and I know how much it’ll mean to him!!

View Quoted Comment This is exactly my issue. No one pushing for a plus one because invitations won’t go out for some time, but people are totally inviting themselves to the wedding.

Not yet. Our wedding is almost a year away and we haven't sent out the save the dates or invitations yet.

View Quoted Comment I’d have called and said, “I’m so sorry that you won’t be able to attend”.

Trueee and said yes to FH dad family friend but he said he is not coming anymore so... but If i get asked again I’m saying no, we are very close to the wedding date and I don’t want the added stress

I’ve had one lady say, “Don’t forget to invite me to your Wedding” twice, like 5-10 minutes apart. I thought that she was talking on the phone the first time.

The second time, I asked her if she was speaking to me.

She was!

I replied that “I didn’t know her, so why would I invite her”?

Another person wrote on the RSVP card that they were “bringing Daughter and Grandson”. Ma'am, you needed to call and ASK. You don’t tell people that you’re bringing extra people to their event. This situation has been resolved as they are going to be out of state, so they’re not attending.

We had people over and a Plus 1 to that event (so I just met her on 8/24) now thinks that she is invited. Ma’am, I don’t know YOU!

Also had a friend of a friend (MoH) ask when Invitations would be sent out because she was trying to make Hotel reservations.

This was due due to the MoH running her mouth.

Ma'am, you are not invited just because your heard about a Wedding of someone that you know.

Why do people think that they can just invite themselves to your event?!