I’ve Given Up on In Laws

View Quoted Comment When we told them we were getting married it just got worst. I don’t think there will ever be any kind of communication with them from my end which I’m fine with. I’ve cut off my own flesh and blood for their negative talk about me (apparently I shouldn’t be doing as good as I am since I’m divorced). This is a conversation we had just last week about when we get our house how is this going to work. I’m sorry but this is my personal space and my home. If there is no respect for me and his fiancé and wife why should we allow them into our home?

View Quoted Comment That honestly worries me the most is if they would stoop that low and start badmouthing me to my daughter. That’s a line I hope they never cross because there will definitely be no coming back from that.

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Wow! So sorry. Yes I had to unwelcome them from our home for a while. I had Thanksgiving at our home because we just bought it and when they came they took over my whole table and I had to sit with the kids on the kids table. I felt so out of place IN MY OWN HOME. I told my FH until they can accept that you are going to be with me and me with you... They cannot come into our home and make me feel unwanted. This is my home, our home, our childrens home and I will not put up with it. So for about a year, I didn't go to their house or family events and they didn't come to mine. It worked for a while until they started feeling guilty and asking where me and the kids were.

View Quoted Comment All I know is I never want to be this kind of mom to my boys. I would like my future daughter in laws to feel welcomed and that if they can’t talk to their own family my door is open.

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I agree 100% and I promise myself that everyday (my kiddos are 10 and 8 so still have a long time to go) but, I tell my FH all the time THIS IS WHAT WE AREN'T GOING TO DO. We are going to be better and do better. I would NEVER hate someone that my kiddos love. Unless they were being abusive. But, just because their different from me... No, I would never do that.

Girl, I feel you. I’ve neved once felt welcomed whenever I go to any of my FH family functions with his dad, step mom, and half sisters. It’s so obvious that I’m not wanted there so I stopped showing up, and then once I started not showing up IM considered the Bxtch! I can never do anything right in their eyes. I’ve never been anything but nice and respectful towards them only to be constantly talked down towards and for them to be talking major crap about me behind my back. It got to a point where I would change myself to meet their expectations whenever I would be around and guess what, it worked for a brief moment but I ended up hating who I was and how fake it all was. I couldn’t take it anymore so now we’re back to hating each other. I feel bad for my FH, I know he hates being in the middle of it all but it’s not like I ever asked for this. I never grew up with sisters and I was really excited at first to have sister in laws but unfortunately things didn’t turn out how I had hoped they would. Hope things get better for the both of us girl!