"I've never been to an engineer wedding"

I'm with PK on this. On one hand, I totally understand the stereotype. I saw pictures from my coworker's wedding. It was totally nontraditional (awesome, but unexpected). On the other hand, engineers are people too! DH and I both are in the industry and we never got any comments like this. But no-one believes us when we say we are anyway, so I guess we don't fit the stereotype?

@PK: I'm trying to convince DH to let us have a d20 for the kissing games.

@NotAllWhoWander: All my friends from high school and undergrad are engineers, and they're my absolute favourite people in the world I hope those people didn't mean it in the "it must be something weird" kind of way, but I always had way more fun at engineers' parties than my boring Econ classmates' parties

I officiated a wedding where the groom & best man were engineers.

I realized as I was reading, "may your love be as constant as the never-ending waves and as dependable as the tides..." that on that ONE day the Gulf of Mexico was as flat as a pancake with no waves. Also, we have 3-4 tides a day and the times vary -- unlike other places where there might be 2 that are 12 hours apart.

At the end of the ceremony, they commented on it, we all laughed and agreed it was a nice sentiment anyway.

@Pancakes - My dad is a former engineer who retired and opened a board game store, so we play everything, and FH brews, it sounds very similar!!! Clearly this OH WW get together thing needs to happen! Lol.

@Janeen - Lol, that is a little weird, but not like you are wearing sailor moon costumes down the street weird. IDK, your wedding was gorgeous FYI, and Im not sure that anyone would oh yea, that them there's was an "engineer wedding"

Hahahaha I have actually worn a Sailor Jupiter costume to school before. Holy cow lol.

Right, my wedding looked pretty normal but I did get quite a few comments about how people were surprised that I went with a traditional wedding gown. I think that's more about me as a person than my profession.

I've noticed that male engineers seem to marry mostly teachers or nurses and female engineers typically stick to marrying other engineers. I've never even dated anyone other than EE's or computer scientists.

I keep getting super behind on these comments! LOL I am happy that other people think it is a weird comment too! Today was the 4 or 5th time I had gotten it, and for some reason it irritated me enough today to post about it, maybe cause it wasn't just a statement but a fb message.

@Kassy - FH and I are the stereotypes in that we both look and at times sound like engineers. But, the rest of the stereotype definitely isn't us! We have tons of fun and lots of friends and we party. We do nerdy things to but yea... IDK

@VC - my best friend was an Econ major, and she is continuously telling me that now that we are all graduated that engineers are more fun and she thinks its because we are making up for all the parties we missed in college.

I went to an engineer wedding! They did some things differently but I don't think it had anything to do with both being engineers. They did a unity ceremony mixing a cocktail and had wedding pie, with a mini cake that had Mario characters on top. It was adorable.

I'm marrying a physicist (close enough to engineer, but I think he'd kill me if I said that to him), and I'm pretty sure we're having a normal wedding. Then again, if he was doing 80% of the planning, who knows what we'd end up with. Probably everything UCLA, not physics though.

ETA The one physics/engineering grad school party he took me to was definitely one of the most fun parties I ever went to. "Nerds" really do know how to have more fun.

Oh goodness. Why have we not met before?! Lol.

Have you played the board game Compounded? It's really sweet and the score board is the table of elements Basically, you are building compounds, but every so often there are lab fires that destroy things around them. So you have to build them fast. And you grab for elements in a bag. Idk. FH isn't crazy over it (he moreso like deck building games) but I really like it.

I got some weird comments before my wedding. People dont really know how to take me because I'm about as country as they come plus I'm an engineer. They weren't sure if my wedding was going to be redneck or formal lol In college when we would go out and people found out our group was all engineers they were always in shock of how "normal" and social we were.

Huh... I didn't realize that engineers were a cultural subset!

I think engineers are awesome. I should have majored in engineering in college (it's what I always wanted to do but decided to do something more "practical"), I still want to get an engineering degree, 80% of my coworkers are engineers, and several of my close friends are engineers. I don't find them particularly odd. Maybe that means I'm odd just like them???

@GrayCat Vintage - Alot of our other Engineering friends asked us if ours would be super formal too! But then I realized it was because they wanted to do something weird involving james bond, and not because they actually thought it was formal.

@FutureMrsDrF - I feel like there is nothing wrong with mixing cocktails and mario character cake toppers... maybe that is why people keep asking me weird questions....

@Pancakes - I have played that game it is awesome! If your FH likes deck building games you should look into Quarriors, it is esentially dominion but with dice instead of cards!

Ooh. He might like that! He likes dice games, too! He probably already knows it, but I'll ask him. Thanks!

@tucker - yea... we get that alot too.... IDK why everyone assumes we are so weird. I also go to alot of engineering events with other engineers and since Im one of the only girls I will continuously get people asking me if I am the finance person. :/

@Jess - Clearly you were meant to be one of us. And I guess we sorta are now? Since people seem to hold us to different standards? I've never really thought of it in those exact words before....

Honestly, and I don't want this to come off mean haha, but without knowing specifically what someone did just having a title of 'engineer' really means nothing to me. The title companies give people these days don't always represent what the job actually is. I would assume though people coming to your wedding should know who you are and what it is you do, or at least have an idea!

I find that quite strange. Both DH and I are engineers and we didn't get any comments like that. Would people say things like I have never been to a lawyer wedding? Aren't they a cultural subset?

I don't think I am that weird. I actually feel pretty basic.

I want to go to engineer weddings. I am sure they will be efficient.

@NotAllWhoWonder: Even in high school and undergrad their parties were better, lol. I always found them to be more real. I hate running into former Econ classmates because the first thing they answer to "how are you?" is how much money they make and/or how many people they manage. Yuck.

@Jillian - We didn't title our wedding that or anything. If anything we have told people that it is an art deco vibe and then have talked about the bar (cause I mean that is what people actually want to know about right?). But to clarify, FH and I both have Aerospace Engineering degrees and do Aerodynamic/Thermal Design work for jet engines. So, we are definitely engineers in more than just name... but we also aren't really doing a whole lot with our job at the wedding, the most we have is that our cake topper is an airplane... but only you guys and my mom knows that.

@VC - IDK if I could talk to people who responded that way, just reading that made me cringe.

Yay for all the engineer weddings! My fiance and I are both engineers.