Jack and Jill party

Jack and Jill party as in a co-ed shower, or as in the fundraiser event? If it's the second option, don't do it.

I believe it's a co-ed shower with the intent of raising money for the engaged couple. Examples would be to charge invited friends for tickets to get in, also possibly charge for food and drinks and have raffles during the party. All monies are then donated to the couple.

Don't do this...

ETA: words

Don't crowdsource your wedding funding. Ew.

My advice is to run, run far and fast, from this tacky idea.

If you're referring to a co-ed shower, that's fine. If you're referring to an actual Jack and Jill with raffles, tickets, etc - don't.

Some people call co-ed showers Jack and Jill's. I've heard it said that way before. But most of the time they refer to the wedding fundraiser. OP can you clarify what you mean by 'Jack and Jill'?

We don't do Jack and Jill's in my area from what I have read on hear is it is really a social error.

I'm hoping you mean a couples shower and not a party that you charge people to come to in order to pay for your wedding. If you're referring to the latter, that is a Jack-and-Jill, and they're highly frowned upon for multiple reasons. But there is nothing wrong with a co-ed shower.

Everyone in our area does fundraising J&Js.... I can't stand them, and we aren't doing one, but people in our area love them! My brother had so many people go to his that between admission tickets, raffle tickets, and other games they made over $5k! While it isn't our style, some regions love them and don't consider them to be in poor taste.

A couple's shower is fine; someone else throws it. A fundraiser for your wedding is disgusting, sorry. I don't care how much money you make. It's not 'regional" issue, it's "we have no class and other people should pay for a wedding we think we deserve but we can't afford' issue.

Don't do it.