Jack and Jill vs. Wedding Fundraiser

There is literally no way I would do this. I'd rather get married in our backyard with just our immediate family present with food that we prepared with love in our kitchen than collect money for a wedding that we wouldn't be able to afford otherwise. Just no.

SUPER NAY!

Super tacky and poor taste. It's not my job to pay for your wedding. At all.

You can get married at the court house and spend way less money (its just as much of a wedding as a party with hundreds of people.)

To even ask people is beyond me. The whole point of a wedding/reception is to thank the guests for coming to celebrate with you. Not ask them to pay to basically thank themselves?

Are you expecting a shocking difference in opinion here?

A wedding is not a charity, thus no reason for fundraising/donations. A couple asking for donations for a fundraiser would get an immediate decline from me.

The idea that guests should fund a couple's wedding is ludicrous to me. If you can't afford your wedding, scale back to what you CAN afford.

Selling tickets to attend, selling Raffles, cash bar or such for a jack and jill is tacky. I'm not paying to attend what's supposed to be a hosted event.

http://www.woodbinebanquet.com/wedding-planning/jack-and-jill-a-joint-shower-party-for-the-bride-and-groom/

Hey, Carissa- as you can see from the above comments, the 75-25 split isn't shocking

Are you asking about this in terms of advice, or just general curiosity as far as other people's opinions? Either is fine, of course- this is the place to ask! You'll definitely get a lot of feedback on this topic!

The last time I was charged to attend a party was college. Hard pass.

Both a Jack and Jill and a fundraiser are tacky. I don't see how one can be and the other not.

It's a party that the bride and groom throw (or their bridal party) to raise money for the wedding. There is an entry fee and then you also pay for tickets to be entered in raffles. Basically, it's a glorified fundraiser.

I'm even okay with honeyfunds and money dances (although we aren't doing either, just okay with them for other people) and I would NEVER host a party asking people to pay for my wedding?? I would literally be horrified.

No I just couldn't do either, I would never expect anyone else to pay for our celebration!

What's even worse is that the bridal party and friends/family buy the baskets to raffle, then they are expected to buy tickets, then they pay to get in... It's like having everyone you know pay to throw the party, then pay to get into the party they financed, then pay to buy tickets to buy the prizes they already paid for... Gross gross gross.