Jack & Jill "party"

First you need to explain what a Jack and Jill means to you. In some areas it is a co-ed shower. In others it is a fund raiser for the wedding.

You can do a traditional "women only" shower and it will cut down costs.

Do you mean a coed bridal shower or a jack and jill?

Geez how many definitions of Jack and Jill's are there? I originally thought they were a co-bachelor/bachelorette.

What do you mean by Jack andJill

A jack and Jill. Basically a co-ed party as opposed to the traditional girls only. We just want to have a good time woth allnod out friends. We dont want to do the whole sit and watch me open all the gifts etc.

View Quoted Comment I thought the same thing. I thought it just meant co-ed get together.

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Still not clear- are you expecting the invited guests to bring gifts?

You cannot throw a gift giving party for yourselves. If you just mean a couples shower, someone still needs to throw this for you otherwise it is gift grabby.

We dont even care if people give us gifts. That's not our intention. My point was (as I'm sure the girls in my bridal party won't know either) how does one work in place of the traditional "bridal shower"? Who gets invited?

I think you're referring to a couples shower. If so, we had one. We invited our closest friends and family, males and females.

ETA But as another PP said, don't plan or host this yourself. This is something that is planned and hosted by your loved ones.

Right...that's what I was looking for. Thank you! We're not planning on planning it ourselves, I was simply looking for guidance. 😊

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You can either throw an engagement party and host it yourselves with best wishes only on the invitation... or hope someone will throw you a couples' shower which will have gifts. There really isn't an in between here.

We’re doing a couples shower that’s coed and we chose to invite more of our friends rather than family. The idea was, a lot of our family would be at the rehersal dinner so we wanted to give our friends an opportunity to celebrate with us at the shower

We are having a jack and Jill party. Just a get together with our friends our age at our local bar. Very laid back and causal. Just drinks and music. I didn't even think to expect gifts. I just want to throw a nice party and for everyone to enjoy themselves

Well I think first you’ll need to decide if you want it to be a gift giving event or not. If it’s called a couples shower that implies gifts. It sounds like you just want a fun party though so I’d specify no gifts, I think that’s where people are getting tripped up trying to respond as we weren’t sure which one you meant But anyway you were asking who to invite - no you wouldn’t invite everyone that’s invited to the wedding, just your nearest and dearest so to speak.

View Quoted Comment Right! Thats what I was thinking. We already live together so gifts isn't even on our minds. Just a hang out and party type thing. Thank you!

We're having a couples Stock the Bar Party. My parents live on a street with lots of fun neighbors, and they are hosting it. We'll just be inviting the wedding party, a few couple friends and a few friends of my parents. You don't need to invite everyone on the wedding guest list.

We are being thrown a sort of co-ed bridal shower, I am super excited for. The guys for the first half will go to a local bar for the first two hours and then come to the shower and we all celebrate!

Jennifer and Janie...I like both of those ideas. Thank you! 😊 Lots of ideas!