Jack 'n' Jill (stag 'n' Doe) Party!!

I have literally never heard of this type of party until I started on wedding forums. I don't get it.

It is northeast.. Western MA, Ct, Canada, a few other regional areas also do it...

Really? I'm from CT and have never heard of it.

Ok for all who have never heard of this please refer to link in original post........ I am simply looking for advice on the date and theme and ticket pricing.. that is all

They can ask for further information on it if they'd like, that kind of also gives them more information to make an educated decision...

I wouldn't do 20$ a person... 10-15 might be fair... I don't even spend 20 when I go to the bar.

March 15th is a month before. I don't think that's too close. St. Patrick's theme sounds cute.

Depending how much you plan on partying, do you really want kids to be there? Price sounds reasonable, but I would leave it open to whoever wants to go so they don't feel obligated to have to spend the money.

We're considering doing something similar but calling it a "Pre Vow Renewal Couples Getaway" (still working on the name. lol) and doing an overnight trip somewhere like the Mohegan Sun or MGM Foxwoods. A few couples will all go and we'll hang out as a group for lunch, and then that night the gals and guys separate and do their own thing and then the next morning hang as a group for breakfast and then head home. Still working out the details but I get the gist of what you're talking about

I think that the month before might be too close. I personally would do it in February. You will have a lot of last minute things happening in the month prior to your wedding. Not to mention other parties (bachelorette, bachelor, maybe bridal shower?)

I think your ticket pricing sounds good, especially if there is a 50/50 raffle

Would "love" or a red theme be dumb for February? I am terrible with thinking of themes

If I were too do it in Feb I was thinking something valentines day like or maybe even luau style. They will definitely be tickets sold or pay at the door as this is meant to be a fundraiser.

There will be raffles (including chinese, and 50/50), Food, and booze will be provided (generally a keg or 2) as well as cash bar for other beverages

This is customary to all that I have been too and ticket pricing varies. I have been to some where its $25 a person flat or other that allow you to buy in 2's and they are cheaper

A luau would be cute!

Whatever is customary in your area... In my area we wouldn't dare do something like this so I have no clue. Like I said for 20$ I'd probably skip... I don't spend that much at the bar and if its a cash bar there's really nothing I'm getting from it. But like I said I don't know how this goes. Also keep in mine your guests... Unemployed.. Laid off...??? Pay cuts... ? How many have undergone that and how much can they afford if they did? Things like this may have gone off without a hitch before the economy crashed... But now how will it affect the plans?

This sounds like fun, even though it's a canadian thing I would totally love to do a more basic idea of this, a little less intense version lol

St. Patrick theme sounds fun, but I wouldn't know anything about ticket pricing because I'm not accustom to the event. If this was in lieu of your shower, I would think $20 isn't terrible.

The point is to recover wedding costs or pay things off that may not be due till that day...

This is also a party that can be in lieu of the shower or in addition too. It is an open party for anyone who choses to buy a ticket - not just the people invited to the wedding. I was looking at it in a point of you get dinner, dancing, and free beer for the ticket price (not too bad I think considering for me and DH to go out to eat it is around $50 or better with no alcohol)

I'm not so much worried about the recoup of cash... I want it more as a celebration but it definitely needs to pay for itself

This is me being 100% honest here.

1 - I know this is typical in Canada, didn't know it was customary in the states

2 - If I had received this, my first reaction would be, "WHAT?! Are you kidding me?"

3 - But then, I would have a few mins to recollect my thoughts and think, "Ok, if she had a shower, I would have spent X anyway, so instead of a physical gift, these guys are getting cash." Fine

4 - Text you and say I'm coming!

@OTW - I like the way you look at things

I mean - what's the difference? Instead of a bath towels, you'll get cash. And I get to drink. I can't remember the last bridal shower that had alcohol. UUGGHHH!!!

What the .... You invite people to this that aren't even invited to the wedding?

I love Jack and Jills, they are so fun. I think you should do it February as well, you'll have enough to think about the month before your wedding. I personally would pay $20 for a night out and would love a luau theme!