Jack&jill vs Bridal Shower

You could just invite the guys you are closest with instead of couples. I personally don't know many guys who would want to go to any shower-type event, but there are plenty out there and definitely those who will want to be there for you no matter what. So I would suggest only inviting some of your male friends/family. Or you could have an after-party of sorts after the traditional shower and meet up with the guys at the bar (or wherever). That would give you the best of both worlds.

I wanted no shower, my FMIL wanted to throw a Bridal Shower and my MOH wanted to do a coed shower. My MOH won the debate and our couple's shower is this Saturday.

We had a coed shower—it was very chill, open-house style lunch (2 pm - 5 pm) at a nice restaurant with no games and no present-opening. Everyone ate and drank and mingled and chat, which is exactly what we wanted.

It's exactly how I would have wanted it had my shower been women-only, so it seemed silly to exclude based on gender and to keep my DH from the day, too. Also, we had a destination wedding, so for our guests who couldn't make it, it was a way for them to celebrate with us, which was very nice.

We only got crap from DH's grandma about not opening gifts. No one else cared.

Are you talking about a coed wedding shower or an actual Jack & Jill which typically charges admission, and has raffles, etc in order to raise $$ for the wedding. Coed shower is totally fine as long as whoever is hosting is ok with the number invited. Jack & Jill's as described above are super tacky and rude (no one should be asked to fund your wedding) and I would not recommend doing one.