Jealous Future Sister in Law

I would stop bringing up your wedding and its details with her.

View Quoted Comment I agree! It’s funny because I NEVER ever bring it up. She always does. And I try to change the subject immediately, lol.

I’m really sorry she is acting like that. My brothers gf acted like that and they broke up over it bc he couldn’t deal with it. So you never know. I would at least talk to your fiancé privately about it and let him approach it with his brother. Other than that, I think it’s fine for her to get pro hair and makeup for your shower.

View Quoted Comment Its different if you dont bring up your wedding and just starts talking about the subject. That sounds like she truly is jealous. Why did you make her a bridesmaid if you're having issues with her, if I may ask?

View Quoted Comment I know! Also whenever we’re together she STARES at my ring for a loooong time. Hardly any eye contact. I get so uncomfortable I have to sit on my hand. I made her a bridesmaid because her boyfriend is the best man and she would be around so much anyway. At the time, I thought we were in a better place. Also, my fiancé has a way bigger bridal party than me and to be honest I just needed the extra #. 🙈

View Quoted Comment Hey, I feel you on needing the extra bridesmaid. Dont let her jealousy ruin your wedding planning. Some people just dont have manners.

Honestly, let her be petty. She’s clearly jealous and her issue is with herself. shes upset she’s not engaged and is taking it out on you because she’s watching you live her dream. Don’t show that you’re bothered. If you want, you could talk to her and tell her that you’re sure her wedding will be perfect for her, but you’re happy with the wedding you have.
Maybe you’ll get lucky and he will drop her ass though.

Find a way to change the subject; tell her that it bothers you when she has to make things a competition.

I can't believe she wants hair and makeup for your shower!! Her jealousy is not without reason, though. It sounds like she's just saying what she wants to hear. I think I'd try humoring it at as long as possible and if that doesn't work I'd jokingly start planning other events that aren't happening. Eg. Something along the lines of "Since your planning your wedding I should get a start on my baby shower/retirement/80th birthday party/other event not happening soon".

Omg I'm absolutely dealing with the same thing. She is very competitive and jealous and I think it's just her young age showing. I did not ask her to be a bridesmaid because I truthfully do not trust her nor do I want her to be involved in my special day. Last weekend she bought a nearly identical dress to match my bridesmaids and I just about lost my mind. FMIL stepped in and told her how inappropriate that was and that she needs to get a different dress. Both of FH's parents can barely stand her because of her immaturity.

View Quoted Comment I wish that was the case for me. My in laws love her 🙄🙄. At my engagement party my future SIL said to my MIL “I would never do this to you. You know how easy I am.” I asked my MIL but she denied it. She doesn’t want to get involved. I’m relieved to know I’m not the only one!

Relating to my last post, she is also the best man's gf. That did not stop me from NOT asking her to be in my wedding party. I would honestly drop her as a bridesmaid if I were you. Her bf has to know what an uncomfortable person she is in the wedding planning process. It is your big day for crying out loud! She does not need the satisfaction of getting under your skin. Your FH needs to speak to his brother.

View Quoted Comment Ugh you’re so right. Unfortunately she is only like this with ME. In private, away from other people. If I kick her out his whole family will look at me as the nasty one when in reality it’s her. I really wish I could. I’m not going to include her in most activities and she’s really just an extra body for pictures since she would be around anyway and I’m two bridesmaids shorter than my fiancé’s groomsmen 🤣

Ouch! This sounds like a hot mess. I understand needing the extra # haha. But you never spoke on this. Is she older than you? Perhaps she is really embarrassed. When she talks about her wedding don’t feed into it too much. Say things like “oh yes! After me and SO’s wedding we will have to start planning yours! Have you thought of these colors for the wedding? Etc.” don’t let her know you’re being bothered. She’s probably just really embarrassed, and regardless of age, she is probably more embarrassed than anything if they have been dating even 2 months longer than you guys. Both my bf’s sisters got engaged (one married) in the time we have been dating for almost 7 years. And they’ve been with their guys for less than a year and a half. Yeah we are younger but we also aren’t kids. It’s pretty embarrassing esp since everyone keeps asking when we are next...I’m however not acting like your FH’s brothers gf, lol. But man does it make you feel so bad deep down inside.

Have you ever spoke to her about it privately? Have you spoke to your fiance? Maybe he can talk to his brother about it...