Jealous

They get a day, and you get a day. Worry about your plans, and pay no mind to them. I haven't experienced jealousy from siblings; I have experienced wishing my BIL and his fiancée would wait to get married since she's only 22, and this will be her second marriage. they've only known each other for 5 or 6 months, and she's pregnant to boot. Just be happy for people, or if it annoys you sip more wine (if you do, that's what I've done), smile and go about your day.

Also they aren’t engaged

Your definitely not the only one going through this. My sister is planning her second wedding right now and my fiancé's little sister is engaged at the same time as us. It's a lot more frustrating when they weren't engaged and were planning their wedding overtop of ours. It's completely understandable that your annoyed by her doing this, you are the one engaged. It's hard not to say anything because you don't want to come off mean, but it is annoying. I found that I would zone out, smile through the times this happened, and then make sure I really enjoyed my wedding planning when they weren't around and also have that glass of wine.

My FH is worried his older brother will propose to his gf and then have their wedding close to ours as a way to "show us up" because that's the type of person he is. I told him let him. I am not comparing my wedding to anyone else's. Besides those two make EVERYTHING about money and I have better things to discuss than how much something cost or who makes more money.

You have no idea what they talk about in private so for all you know they have been planning on getting married anyway. I was 22 when I got married the first time, exH was 21. Lots of people get married that young and lots of people get married without having a formal “engagement”.

Enjoy your time. Be happy for others If and when they decide to get married. It will feel better than holding negative feelings on it. It will be separate days, separate occasions.

My brother's girlfriend has been trying to convince my brother to propose since my sister and I got engaged 2 years ago (13 days apart from each other). She got really pushy around my sister's wedding and now that I'm 9 months out from mine she's getting pushy again. My sister and I both had to drop her out of our bridal parties because of how she gets with wanting to get married. They only started dating a couple months before I got engaged. It drives me insane and I don't know how he puts up with it

View Quoted Comment My sister and her H did this. They got engaged 13 days after us and killed themselves to plan a wedding before ours. They easily spent $30,000+ on their wedding. It was so expensive for us bridesmaids that FH and I had to push our wedding back a year. Now any time I post anything wedding related on fb (like a question on vendors or looking for opinions on small things) she makes some huge post with one of her wedding photos to bring the attention back to her.

Stay in your lane and let it go. What other people doesn't affect you and is none of your business.

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You both dropped her from your weddings? You are both in the wrong. It has always seemed to me that brides who react by getting annoyed at others who they feel are jealous of them are the ones with the problem. Just because someone is engaged doesn't mean that the world revolves around them, that others can't get engaged, that others can't get married near or before them (oh, the horror............). You get one day. ONE.

View Quoted Comment When she makes her posts it's completely irrelevant to what I've posted about. It has nothing to do with info about vendors it is purely for attention on herself. Around here $30,000 wedding is over the top. 10-15k is the average. Oh and she did flat out say she had to get married before me and had to have a bigger wedding.

Just like you said we get one day. So it makes us wrong to drop the bridesmaid that can't listen to what we want for our weddings and wants to turn our entire day into about her?

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If it's your SIL, yes.

View Quoted Comment Except she's not my SIL. She's just a gf and my brother doesn't have any interest in proposing to her.

If it’s your special day it should be about you. I would feel the same way. I’m not spending all the money for someone to try and ruin it with the attention they want

View Quoted Comment When I originally asked her we got along really well. Like hanging out several days a week every week. It wasn't till she tried turning my wedding into her dream wedding and begging my brother to propose that we began to have issues. She called my florist to try to get my floral arrangements changed and called our catorer to get our menu changed to her favorite foods. When we went to look at bridesmaid dresses she refused to try on any of the 8 dresses I was originally looking at and only wanted to try on the dresses she pictured her future bridesmaids in. Everything I've said here I've said straight to her face. I'm not one for talking behind people's backs. I told her before kicking her out of the bridal party she needed to calm down with trying to make everything what she wanted that she'll have her own wedding one day and when that day comes if she wants I'd love to help her with hers. She chose to continue trying to make the whole day about her. When i asked her to be a bridesmaid I didn't expect her to do any of this.

Honestly you sound like the jealous one. Their relationship does not affect yours in anyway. Enjoy your engagement and don't worry about them.

I am the oldest sibling, so it really is my time and my siblings are still in high school so it is definitely not theirs. If my younger sister were to talk about eloping in the middle of my engagement and planning though, I would go BEZERK! Advice for dealing with your future-possible-sister-in-law, I would ask her if she would like to help in planning your wedding, or being involved in it. That way it's about YOUR wedding, but she gets to exert some of her pent up marriage excitement. I hope that it gets better for you and that no one steals YOUR shine on YOUR day.

I am sorry you are going through this. I have like the polar opposite with it being my such a good thing. My sister and I are both engaged, and we are enjoying being able to talk about our different plans with each other and not annoy a whole host of other people who don't have wedding fever like we do. I hope you can find a way to enjoy your planning while dealing with this added frustration.

My siblings aren't jealous at all- in fact my planning a wedding is pushing them further away from wanting one because of how stressful everything is lol.

I did have a friend who started dating around the same time I did. I got engaged almost a year ago and she got engaged a little less than a month ago. We both knew our relationships were heading towards marriage, but for reasons relating to money, relationship differences etc. we had different timelines. This friend REALLY wants to get married, but it didn't take away from her helping plan my bach party. We talk about both our relationships. It bothered my MOH that she kept talking about her relationship on the back party (literally almost an entire evening), but I don't care. I want my friends to be happy and successful in their relationships.

IMO just because you're engaged doesn't mean that all the wedding and relationship convos are about you. I actually have a friend who would get annoyed when we she was engaged (now married) if all we talked about was wedding stuff (even though we were her BM). I've kind of taken on the same attitude.

I think we all deal with this in our own way.