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With family it's different. My parent are contributing/opinionated/excited, and his parents are very excited. I'm talking more about friends (even those that are bridesmaids). My friends have gone through ups and downs this year and it always felt a bit self absorbed to be talking about florals or napkins or dresses or whatever. Much of my wedding will be a surprise to my friends because they don't know every detail even though they're in the wedding.

No, but my sister is 13 and FH's brother is already married. Even if someone was jealous, i wouldn't pay attention to it.

Haha. I thought this was just my experience! My FBIL's gf does this all the time. She's been pressuring my FBIL to get married barely a year into the relationship. Any talk about my wedding turns into theoretical talk about her wedding..😂 it used to bother me at first, but all of her friends around her are married and having kids and I realized she's just trying to keep up with Jones's. I find it a little sad, because by the time her wedding does come around, everyone will probably be sick of talking about it.

Try not to take it personal and let it ruin your engagement. Think bigger picture and for your FBIL's sake, just hope that they get married for the right reasons and not just because they feel pressured to. Because if it's for the wrong reasons, that will catch up with them eventually.

View Quoted Comment Sarah when your defending getting married young but making a statement about your “Ex-husband” ..... you obviously were too young . If you were in fact still married and making that statement it would be a different story.

View Quoted Comment Yes, because obviously our age was why we got divorced. Or maybe it’s because he returned from war a changed person and started beating the sh*t out of me. Nah, it’s probably that we were young.

View Quoted Comment Also, I didn’t defend getting married young. I just said lots of people do it.

This thread is full of hot mess.

FHs sister got back with her now fiancé after three years of being broken up right after we got engaged. They were back together for two months, got engaged and are due to have a baby in April. FHs best friend got engaged the month after us. FHs uncle got engaged a couple months after us and gets married this month. I got a little upset when first finding out, but never told anyone except FH. His mom even sat down and told me she felt horrible because FHs brother had his engagement time uninterrupted by other engagements or big life events. FH said something that stuck with me- "other people's lives happen completely independently from ours". Accepting that this is the time in our life that we wish to get married doesn't mean that another couple can't decide that this is their time too.

I have always felt that my cousin followed in my foot steps as far as life events, not out of jealousy or anything, but she definitely always wants to do what everyone else is doing. I live in a different state and have a completely different life than her, though we are best friends. Coincidentally or not, she went back to college after I graduated, she moved in with her boyfriend after FH and I bought a house, always texts me asking questions like if FH and I have a joint account or not, etc. After I got engaged in May I heard from other family members that she was going around hounding her boyfriend of 7 years to finally propose and if any other family member brought up that I was getting married she would get defensive and say her and her now FH have been together longer so on and so forth. I asked her to be a BM and set my date. She always thought she'd be the first to get married in our friend group because they have been together the longest. Two months later, he did propose. To be honest, she didn't seem all that happy, like she was just waiting and it finally happened. All she sent me was a ring picture, nothing else. She also set her date to be two months before mine. Not going to lie, I was slightly annoyed but I've never not been happy for her. Agreed with PP above, you get one day and they get one. You never know what they've been talking about or what they've been planning, just be happy for them. A good quote to live by that I learned on WW "no one is as excited for your wedding as you are."