Joint bachelor/bachelorette parties?

We did this! Some of my BMs are his friends and some of his GMs are my friends, so it worked out well.

We all rented a big house in the mountains for a long weekend and did some activities/excursions together and some separate. We all ate dinner at the house together. We had about 12 people and everyone (to my knowledge) had a great time.

I went to one for my friend and her husband.
It was at the MOHs house. The girls chilled mostly inside and the men outside. We played some fun bachelorette games, chatted and drank. Eventually the guys came in and everyone mingled. It was fun.

We did this too!! Me, FH, groomsmen, and BM, plus their SO’s we all rented a cabin in Gatlinburg and just spent the whole weekend hanging out, drinking, playing games, and we all dresses up one night and went out to eat. It was so much fun!

We originally planned this and booked an Air B&B at Atlantic City for the weekend but Covid made us cancel that because things were still shut down. Although we are legally married, we still plan on doing a joint one before our big wedding in March

WE ARE!!! And we are so excited! I'll spare you the drama of why we are doing it, but essentially, no one wanted to plan a party fro us and I have no girl friends BUT I'm close with FH's guys and they think I'm cool too and everyone was on board with it lmao.

ANYWAYS, we are going roller skating and renting out the whole place for just us to keep safe during COVID. We ill have pizza and sodas and (hopefully) some fun decor, our own playlist and most importantly, 2 hours to skate our hearts out! We love the aesthetic of the 80s, arcades, roller rinks, etc so this is a perfect fit for us!

We will have 9 people there, my FH and I, his 4 groomsmen/best man, two girlfriends of theirs, and my cousin who is a bridesmaid.

What's important is that you know that your people will mesh well with both groups!

I'll be followung this. Seems like a good idea.

We had a joint one mostly because my girls came to our out of state wedding and his guys were unable to. So their significant others did not really know my now husband. The day of (during COVID) we went to do axe throwing and mini golf, then we went zip lining, and then we drank and played games inside the hotel. I enjoyed it being in a group.

We did!! A month ago we rented a hotel room for the weekend. Basically Friday night we went to an scape room then had dinner. Saturday morning the girls had brunch, then the guys went mini golf. At night we planned a dinner with all of our families together since this was a perfect opportunity for everyone to kinda know each other before the big day. Then the bridal party threw us an after party at the hotel room. Honestly, it was the best decision since his groomsmen weren’t really planing anything for him so I was like why not plan it ourselves and do it our way! It was a really fun weekend!

My MOH just had one for her wedding. Key was all of the SOs of the bridal party were invited. My husband ended up not being able to go, but I wouldn’t have gone if he wasn’t invited.


It was a weekend in a cabin with drinking games one day and a winery and Halloween party the next. It felt more like “a weekend away with friends” than a bachelor or bachelorette party, but I think the bride and groom had fun, which is all that matters!

We were open to this, but our BP wanted to do something with each of us, so 2 of them decided to work with me to suprise DH with a joint one.

DH's favorite baseball player of all time was retiring a few months before our wedding, and our team was holding a Big Deal Retirement Party where they re-signed him for a day and such. So, my bridesman and his groomsman bought us all tickets, drove us down, and we had a night at the ballpark.

We both had other parties that were great fun, but... well. Baseball is life.

And, honestly? Getting to hear The Man, Chase Utley?

Yeah, we both cried a little.

(The Phillies lost. To the Marlins. Like they have since the day we met. Our friends apologized and we just looked at them, like, "this is normal, we still had fun!")

View Quoted Comment Oh my gosh, this sounds amazing!! And so unique! if I were you, I would hire a photographer to photograph the event- those would be killer pictures!!

View Quoted Comment This is so cool!

Thanks so much everyone, it sounds like joint bachelor/bachelorette parties have been super fun and successful! I think we are now leaning more towards doing this, rather than separate ones!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! We are very excited! That is a great idea, I will definitely look into it!!

We did it, went to New Orleans and had a blast. I made a post on it, check it out! You should totally do it.