Good morning,
I am new to this site! My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. My parents love him and adore him. Recently though, my parents and I got into a very heated discussion over how they suspected him and I were speaking about marrying each other down the road. During the conversation, my mother bashed his name, accused him of treating me poorly, and many other horrific things out of NOWHERE. A week before the discussion she went on a rant about how much she loved us together and even said he treated me how she wants me to be treated. Of course, this confused me and now I'm rather hesitant to bring him up to them. We are indeed planning on getting engaged soon (him and I are both sophomore's in college) and hopefully marrying down the road. We currently do not have our own place due to student loans and costs, so I'm at a loss as to how I should go about bringing this up to my parents. They are both wonderful parents, but they are both very old fashioned, Christian, and strict parents. I abide by their rules and respect their decisions, him and I too are Christian and have remained abstinent and kept all things pure. That being said, after the heated argument, I have no idea how to tell them that I actually do plan on marrying him. Since they said so many horrific things about him, which since then they have taken back and reverted back to "we love him!" I feel like I'm walking on eggshells regarding him and I. I'm reluctant to bring him up and him and I's future plans especially since they were so defensive about us ending up together- keep in mind I cannot afford my own place as of now, therefore I technically still "live under their roof" and will have to abide by their rules. But when does this become my own life decision rather than theirs? I don't want to disappoint them or cause tension, but when will I be able to make this decision for myself rather than the approval of them?
Thank you!