July 2020 Weddings

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I am July 11th and its heart breaking to move our date with all the plans made. My opinion is that even if things calm down, are people going to feel comfortable going to a large gathering, which creates the potential for them to contract the virus. It want be eradicated, less people will catch it and get sick. I am thinking July is just too close, for people to feel comfortable. I am afraid if we proceed we are going loose over half of our guest. The other impact, this thing has put a lot of people out of work, so financially some of my guest may be impacted and not able to travel. All these things are floating around in my head. I don't want any of my family and friend to become ill and I do want them to attend. I have put so much into planning this wedding. I am sitting here now looking at my gown, my bridesmaid gowns, centerpieces, bridal gifts, groomsmen gift and other stuff. Unfortunately, we are in process of postponing our wedding to 2021. That is a problem also. because the March, April, May and June brides are flipping to 2021 plus the people already planning on 2021, so we are having problems locking in a new date. I refuse to do a winter wedding!!!

My wedding is on July 18 as well, I have not cancel
Yet I am keeping my faith high and hoping this situation settles, hope everyone stay safe

View Quoted Comment I think every situation is different-even for the same date. For us we had 85% our our 220 guest list flying in, about 50% aged 60 and above and we just needed to make sure everyone was safe. If your guest list is mostly local then I think holding on is fine. It’s really just when you reach your own threshold.

View Quoted Comment That is the reason why we are stress, 80% of my
Fiancé family are flying in all my family are from NJ, from our 175 guest 50% of our guest are in there 40 and up some with medical history, I told my fiancé I am hoping we can move forward with the wedding and
This virus settles but if god forbid this continues I will not put anyone life in risk for this event, I’ll just postpone for a later month 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

The brides who posted in this thread last week were a lot more optimistic than the brides who posted this week. I too was feeling more optimistic a week ago. I think I knew there was a potential we could have to cancel our July 25 wedding, but it didn't seem to feel like a real possibility until this week when news reports came out saying this isn't going to get better by the summer. Now my stomach is sick as the reality is setting in that we really might have to cancel. We've had a long engagement and I've been SO looking forward to our wedding day finally coming.

I have all our invitations addressed and ready to mail but now I'm glad I waited to send them. We think we'll wait until May to make the call. In May, we'll either have new save the dates made or we'll send our original wedding invitations that are ready to go.

In the meantime, any friends and family we talk to, we'll be telling them about our dilemma so they aren't as shocked if we send them a save the date for next year instead. If we do have to postpone, we'll elope on July 25 this year and just have a ceremony and reception next year. I like the idea Katharine shared here about making a bigger trip out of the bachelorette party if we have to postpone our wedding. That actually makes me feel a little bit better at least. I know my friends would be excited about that and probably motivated to cheer me up. I'll need it.

We think this is our plan, for now.

I think its naive to assume anything at this point. I understand we must keep hope, but we must also be realistic and prepare for the worst case scenario (postponement.) I am right here with you, except I am having to sort this out sooner.

Our wedding is planned for June 13, 2020 and while that seems far enough out to not have to postpone - with all the uncertainty and information rapidly changing on a daily basis, I can't help but be overwhelmed with stress and anxiety. I've already had to cancel by bridal shower and am sure my bach is out of the question at this point too.

Here in CA, we have a "Shelter in Place" ordinance in effect through April 19th with the possibility of that extending to May if our situation here does not improve. Our venue has had to cancel and postpone weddings that were planned through April. My heart ACHES for those couples.

We are hoping late April will offer more clarity for the future of 2020, however, what everyone needs to understand (myself included) is that even if things "calm down" soon, it doesn't mean people will be out of danger while in close proximity to one another. We never expect to have to make such a heartbreaking decision, however, it is not nearly as heartbreaking as the idea of putting our loved ones at risk.

Hi all, our wedding is on July 31st. Last week I was more optimistic and hopeful than I am this week. Yesterday my fiance and I sat down and made a Plan B & Plan C. It definitely makes me sad and I wish we weren't going through this. I am also nervous that guests will not come to the wedding out of fear of being around many people and possibly contracting the virus. These are all valid fears and it breaks my heart.

At this point, we think we might have a very small ceremony and then a wedding reception later this year or early next year. Any other July 31st brides? What are your plans right now?

Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

All the best,

Natalie

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry hun. How far did you postpone?

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We went from 07/18/2020 and our new date is 04/23/2021

I didn't want to go through this process again. Also our venue paid us back $10k to go from July to April and from saturday to friday...money towards a downpayment with interest rates this low was VERY appealing to us

View Quoted Comment Well I’m sorry you had to postpone but I’m glad it worked out for you hun. I know it was heartbreaking but also beneficial.

View Quoted Comment I am getting married on July 4th too but in Mexico, finger crossed ❤️

I've got a July 11 wedding in Oregon, with some of my family there, but I live in Maryland and many guests will be traveling across the country.

I fortunately got wedding cancellation insurance through WedSafe so I have to wait until either the state forces the venue to close or the venue itself closes to get deposits back, as the venue refuses to move any weddings to next year or return any deposits.

Right now I'm waiting to make any decisions until closer to the date, and I was planning on sending out invites soon, but I might wait on that now. I have a mutual friend who moved their May wedding to July so that makes me hopeful, but I'm also worried that even summer weddings won't be safe.

I've been with my FH for nearly 10 years and we've been engaged almost 19 months already so the idea of postponing another whole year sucks, but I do realize these are small concerns compared to what's going on globally. I would be open to still getting legally married on our date even if we couldn't travel to the venue or have all our guests (about 75) there for a reception, but the problem is that even our closest family and friends live spread out across the country so they would have to travel still. I guess I'll just wait and see...

View Quoted Comment I’m getting married July 4th too, and at this point we’re definitely thinking of postponing. Doesn’t seem like things will be getting better in California.

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I'm a July 31st also. My late father's birthday, so the date is important to me. I was more optimistic last week. After the stay-at-home order was extended to June 10th this week (we're in VA), I'm worried about being back to normal by July. Trying to stay hopeful, but my anxiety is through the roof. FH and I are discussing our options and looking at reserving an alternate date with our venue just in case, but I don't think we'll make any real decisions before the first week of May unless things change drastically.

We just postponed by daughter's wedding planned for May 30th to July 19th. My son-in-law is a physician and he said, as I have heard many times now, they think we could have two social distancing periods. They think July and August will be OK due to the hot weather (we live in SC so very hot, humid here then), then maybe start again in mid-September or so. It's a very tough call but we opted for that window.

Janice, thank you for sharing some perspective from your physician son-in law. Very helpful and hopeful! We are trying to reschedule from our original 4/11 date to 7/18 so fingers and toes crossed!

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Joyce, You may well be wrong. It could actually be better by then. Meaning okay to actually have the ceremony & a reception with more than 10 people. I don't see the current situation as sustainable beyond mid-May, and thus some of the social distancing will also be lifted little by little. We've already moved our 5/24 date to 7/25 and are hoping for the best. I highly suspect we will have a smaller crowd. This is something everyone needs to think about: will you be just as happy with 1/2 as many folks? I will. We don't want to wait a year. Great for you that you are sure the summer will be underwater with CV-19 and are patient enough to wait a year. Most of us don't feel that way. And if you are right, we'll be in a situation worse than the great depression and marriage ceremonies & parties & dresses will be the least of anyone's worries.

View Quoted Comment Candice, I hope I am wrong! I would be THRILLED to be wrong. Not just for people’s weddings, the economy, and my own sanity, but because of the literal thousands of Americans dying every day now. But OP asked for opinions, and she didn’t ask for sugarcoating. Even as we get a handle on this virus, I think people will likely be cautious about running full steam ahead into all of our pre-covid socializing habits. Where I live, in DC/MD/VA, they don’t expect the peak to come until early summer. But nobody knows what’s going to happen, and I don’t pretend to. I really hope things are better by July. But the best advice anyone can give at this point is to hope for the best and plan for the worst.

Another July 4 bride. Upstate New York. The uncertainty and limbo is what is killing me but even more so now is digging deeper and realizing;
-3/4 of our bridal party is laid off
-shower and bachelorette canceled which i believe is something special to share with the bridal party-when will hair and makeup trial end up being (all salons are closed in New York currently) -we don’t have wedding bands picked out yet -will we be able to get a marriage license -our friend is our officiant, currently deployed, supposed to be back in May now doesn’t know when he’s returning -one of my fiancé’s family members just survived after almost losing a battle with COVID for the last 3 weeks. Still on oxygen. No clue recovery time -our date might be too soon for people to feel comfortable to travel, losing guests we won’t hit the minimum for our venue
I feel for all these reasons we sadly have no choice but to postpone. While I’m heartbroken to do i feel like the peace of mind will help me