June 2020 brides: freaking out?

View Quoted Comment Our situation is almost exactly like yours! Our date is June 6th as well. If you still marry on the 6th and postpone the reception, would you go to courthouse and then renew your vows at reception or what are your thoughts for how to do that?

My wedding is supposed to be June 20th and we have recently decided to postpone our wedding. It's a destination wedding and with some many people traveling and with everything so up in the air we feel that this is the right decision. I also don't want my guest to have to make the decision to come or not if its better but they don't feel comfortable coming. I also have heard once social distancing is over, there may be another outbreak.

Our wedding was 6/19. We decided to postpone till 8/23. Hoping it is settled down by than. Praying for everyone

View Quoted Comment So glad I saw this comment. I’m June 19th and live 40 minutes outside of the city. Haven’t cancelled yet. Waiting until the first week of May to make a final decision. Have you postponed yet?

We were supposed to get married June 27th 2020 but recently postponed to December 12th 2020. It was a difficult decision but all of our guests (and ourselves) will be traveling from out of town and we just do not see large gatherings of people from across the nation being acceptable by late June. We loved the date but are embracing our new one, instead of a spring wedding we are now a Christmas one.

My wedding is scheduled for June 6th in Cleveland but I have people flying in from east coast, west coast, and other countries. I’ve contacted my vendors to see what my options were if we do decide to postpone and was able to put a soft hold with my church and my reception venue for a later date, so that put my mind at ease a lot just knowing I can have a plan B. My other vendors were very supportive and said they’ll accommodate me with whatever I decide (as long as they’re not booked yet, of course, which they aren’t for that new date).


I would caution about assuming the warm weather will help. Countries that are warm now or always warm/hot (e.g. Singapore) have cases of COVID-19 so it’s not necessarily weather related. I’ve heard the reason we (I’m in the US) have a flu season is because it’s when people are generally clustered more indoors or in groups rather than when it’s warm and people are outside, active, more spread out in general.
Honestly, it’s hard to predict. The situation is changing always. Some places have more than one peak because of people hear cases are going down and then start to go out more, so it peaks again. The travel restrictions are concerning, but there are also many local people who may be older, are immunocompromised, have comorbidities (e.g. lung disease, diabetes, etc.), or have family members with these conditions that they wouldn’t want to expose. It’s hard to say you want to make people choose between going to your wedding or staying healthy, especially if they have to RSVP weeks in advance without knowing what the situation will be like. Also many people are going through financial hardships right now so they wouldn’t be able to financially afford traveling, getting gifts, etc. Some places are predicted to be peaking now or soon, but remember it will take weeks or months to come down from the peak.
I don’t know what to do yet, but at this point I’m not opposed to postponing. My fiancé and I have been together a long time so waiting longer is okay with us. The plans of what is on the menu, the flowers, the dresses, etc. are already done so it’s not like re-planning a whole other wedding, just moving some logistics. My best friend (and bridesmaid) is a doctor in NYC and is treating COVID-19 patients, I have many friends on the front lines, and I know people who are sick or have loved ones that have died, so having that puts a really great perspective on worrying about my wedding. It is a big life event, but at the end of the day, having all those you care about be safe and healthy is way more important.
At this point, I would recommend reaching out to your venues and other vendors at least for peace of mind to know what has to happen if you do postpone. It made me feel much better to at least know what steps would have to be taken. Since we’re all stuck in limbo feeling helpless about this situation, our weddings, etc. taking that small action makes it feel like you are able to at least get a grip on something. Or you could do a private ceremony to keep your date and postpone to just have a big ol’ party celebration when this is done! I know people who are doing that as well. And you know people will be sooooo ready to party after this is over!
In the end, we’re all blessed to have a partner we love who loves us, too. Other brides have already had to go through the difficult decision to postpone, have watched their dates come and go, and they’re surviving! We will all get through this, too.

View Quoted Comment Yes me too!!! Ok please keep me posted on what your decision is! I hate making decisions like this

View Quoted Comment We postponed our wedding!!! CA has extended their stay at home to May 15. We were to be married on June 14. Just not enough time to get anything done! Not even sure we can get a marriage license on time!

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I'm definitely postponing. There's no way things are going to be comfortable enough for our potential guests by 6/13. I just have to think of all the people traveling and wanting to plan ahead. It's just not smart to me to keep this date right now. The struggle now is not knowing when to push it to yet.

View Quoted Comment That's exactly our plan! our wedding is scheduled for June 6th as well... so if we postpone, we'll have our pastor marry us (we got our marriage license a while ago) then renew or vows & have the reception at a later/safer date. the celebration is not as important as the cause behind it. just my 2 cents.

View Quoted Comment Chicago June 27 bride here too. We put a hold with our venue and all vendors for the same weekend in 2021... waiting a few more weeks to make the call. Either way we plan to legally be married this year and just postpone the reception with all our guests.

View Quoted Comment Let me know what you decide Chicago wedding June 27

View Quoted Comment June 13th bride here. We are hoping and praying things calm down soon. With our state currently under a no more than 10 people ban, having even a small wedding is out. Even when it was 50 people or less, his parents, siblings, and their families make up 30.


Our current plan is to wait until the end of April. We have made a Facebook page as most of our guests are on Facebook and update it regularly as to what our plans are. We call the rest who don’t have that access. As of right now, the trend seems like it’s reaching a peak (fingers crossed) and will hopefully be over soon. If, by the end of April, we don’t feel confident that we can still have to wedding, our very immediate family and our officiant will meet and perform a small ceremony.
Since we have almost everything purchased for the wedding already, we will still have the wedding at a later date, which will just be a celebration with our friends and family, and will be done like a renewal of vows instead of another normal wedding ceremony.
I wish good luck for all of us and feel for everyone who has already had to postpone their weddings, and will have to in the future.

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Well I'm religious (Roman Catholic) so the church wedding is more important to me than the legal details. I'm hoping my church would let us have a simple ceremony with like, 10 people max or something like that if it comes down to it. But if not, I'd probably look into a courthouse.

The thing is, I really really wanted my family to be there for the actual ceremony. So that would be a bummer for me if the 10-person ceremony thing happened. I was thinking, if we held a reception later, maybe we could do a quick little renewal of vows ceremony with a close family member "officiating." At least that way I could wear my dress again and it wouldn't feel like we were throwing a party for something that happened 3 or 6 or 12 months ago (which we would be lol.)

We decided to postpone. June 14 is now December 20. Given that our entire family has to fly into Florida where we live it just wasn’t feasible. We will be legally married as soon as our courthouse reopens because my FHs insurance through his work is awful and mine is much better. But the bright side is the weather will be much nicer when we have it now

Hello! I was a June 27, 2020 bride in Westchester NY. We made the decision last week to postpone. I can't see the way things are going that things will be back to normal by June. Social distancing will still remain in place in some capacity and I dont want this virus overshadowing my wedding. With that in mind, my planner and I decided to post pone to June 12, 2021. It was a tough decision because I was adamant about not changing the date but now that I did, I feel so much more relieved. My cousin getting married in August of this year on Long Island also post-poned to next year.

I am also a corporate event planner and general feel of our industry is that 2020 is a wash for large events, but still hopeful for Q4.

Has anyone had to postpone their date to a weekday? We're June 27, 2020 and our venue is booked for every Friday/Saturday of 2021. (Our venue is upstate and outdoors so there are only so many warm months.) We have to chose either a Monday or Tuesday in 2021 (which I feel like people won't attend or won't have as much fun) or a Saturday in 2022 (which seems so far away).

We're super bummed because we got engaged two years ago and pushed our wedding date out specifically to book this venue. We still want to get married there.

View Quoted Comment We are wedding day twins!!!


I’m glad you are still so optimistic. I’m really trying to be.

June 12th bride here, too and today our governor (WI) extended our 'safer at home" mandate until May 26th. :-( We chose June 12th because it is my grandparent's anniversary and the date is important to me, so we decided that we will still get married that day, even if there are only a handful of us there. At this point, I'm not sure if we'll have a celebration later or not. Our wedding is small anyway, about 60 people, and only a couple of people need to travel in for in it. We'll need to make a final decision by May 10th or so on what we're going to do. I'm a planner, so this "not knowing" and not being able to finalize plans is painful for me!

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Wedding Date triplets! We still haven't pulled the trigger yet to postpone or scale back - we're waiting until 30 days before because California seems like we're thiiiiis close to slowly and carefully opening things back up. I've had family members try to pressure me into postponing, but I think given the circumstances, we're allowed to be a smidge selfish in being at peace with when we decide to make the call for OUR day. Enjoying this community so I can get a feel for how others in the same boat are approaching our dilemmas. I don't know why I didn't join this sooner. Oh well, T-minus 50 days!