June wedding- possible cancellation - final deposits... what to do!?

My FH and I have discussed that in the event of a natural disaster, global pandemic, zombie apocalypse whatever, we are getting married on our wedding day. We have waited long enough and we are not postponing. But, that's a very personal decision and if you don't want to risk getting married without your guest list, you should consider how likely that is. I have heard that the warm weather should kill off the virus and that the spread should die down within the next three months. But you need to be comfortable with the money you're putting down going forward.

View Quoted Comment Please be careful making the assumption that warmer weather will lead to a decrease in the spread of CoronaVirus. I am a biomedical scientist and my focus is infectious diseases, so I have a pretty good background in infectious diseases. Yes cold and flu season tends to slow in warmer months, but CoronaVirus has not been around long enough to determine how the weather affects its transmission. The CDC and NIH aren’t making the assumption that transmission will decline due to temperature and neither should anyone else.


I agree that postponing the wedding isn’t needed, but everyone should be doing their part to help limit transmission. Please be careful listening to everything you hear.

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This was my point, the money moving forward. I still have time to decide if that's a risk I'm wanting to take. I'll get married either way. It's whether it will cost 10k when it could cost less than 2k. And how much money I want to potentially light on fire. On top of keeping my family safe - my first priority. Thank you for understanding. Remember, my deposits for the grand affair are just now coming due...

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Thank you for this wise advice. I have family that are not supposed to travel - ie, both sets of our parents. I also don't want them exposed because others traveled. To me we all have an obligation to mitigate the risks for others. So, I do worry about them feeling like they 'should' jeopardize their health and well-being.

Can you tell me if MS causes any particular additional risks to contagious illnesses? Not as a doctor but as an infectious disease specialist. My thinking is that it affects mobility more than respiration. But, I don't have the right background to hazard a guess.

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For those of us with family who have risks and have been told not to fly - the obligatory feeling that one must attend is a problem. On this thread a person stated that a grandparent with cancer is considering travel. There are life-threatening risks to some.

The CDC is mentioned here. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2020/03/wedding-plans-coronavirus/607723/?fbclid=IwAR2rs_YDKGOKP1lke0KAP2w8Aop_d5TQCzf4oloarkTigvV3sxxxOdCejPA

View Quoted Comment That’s a really good way of thinking. It would be best if everyone was doing their best to minimize the spread and risks as much as possible.


I do not have a background in MS, but my understanding is that it is an autoimmune disease. This means the immune system is attacking its own tissue within the person and has a more difficult time responding to stressors such as disease. Because their immune system is working more than a normal individual, an infection such as the flu or CoronaVirus could be much more detrimental. There doesn’t seem to be a lot of evidence for increased infection when I do a quick literature search. I think the best option would be to more cautious. It’s better to be safe than sorry. But I do think it’s still pretty early to consider canceling or postponing your wedding. There’s still a chance the spread could decrease. Only you can make that decision. Good luck!!! I know it’s not an easy situation.

China ( for what’s its worth) is opening back up parks and stores. I’m thinking by the time your wedding comes around it should severely slow down. Too early to cancel or postpone.

They just closed our schools until April 3rd. Gatherings over 50 are forbidden for the next 8 weeks. Gulp.