“Just don’t register and people will give you cash”.......

I think it depends on your guests. My father's side only gifts cash for weddings, even if people are registered. I prefer to give physical gifts, but will give cash if there is no registry. So I really think it just depends. I think also some people with lower budgets for gifts would prefer to buy a $20 or $15 picture frame rather than give the couple such a small amount and be embarrassed.

I actually registered with Zola for this reason and have a cash gift on there. We're planning on moving soon too so we made a fair sized registry because we're now moving into an actual house instead of a loft. That's one of the main reasons I registered though. Zola, you can register and it'll notify you when someones purchased something and you can either send it straight to your door, have them hold it, or you can convert it into money instead (an "in case you change your mind" kind of thing). I figured it was better to register for a few things and then have to return things than to not register at all and have all kinds of gifts I absolutely don't want/wont use. Especially since his family is TERRIBLE at gift giving.

This is what I did too! I love Zola because you can put gifts from other stores on there too! I love that I can choose when to deliver it or convert it to store credit for something else!

Many people do not know what Zola is though so I am sure that people will buy elsewhere. My cousin (who is a bridesmaid and hosting the shower) mentioned that we should do Bed Bath & Beyond where people can go in and shop because they like that and there is always a coupon available, but I do not want anything from them. (it just is not my store).

In my area we do both...we give a gift if they're registered somewhere and then give a card the day of the ceremony with cash. Typically, you pay enough to "cover your plate".

Even if you register people will still gift whatever they want. Even if you don't register there will always be people that will send a gift.

But i've never heard of people not giving money when they attend a wedding reception.

I completely agree with this!

I know that people on this site think that is a given -- but it's definitely not where I am from! Every wedding I've been to, people get them really weird not on the registry gifts.

I agree with you, Gen! I truthfully think you have to do what's best for you and your future spouse. Although many people on here have advise others to not register at all and your guests will assume that you want money, is still an assumption within itself. Some people may take it as you need household goods instead of money, like in your case.

For future reference, I think people should not say that to people that rather accept money as gifts, and instead say do what's best since it depends on your crowd.

We are not here to judge whatever you decide to do, if anything, we should support you and your wedding planning journey.

Is it too late to set up a Zola registry?

I registered at Walmart too, it's close to where I live (about 30 minute drive) Whereas the closest BBB is about 2.5 hours. But as it's been said people will pretty much just do what they want

We have a small registry just because some of my family is old school and loves the "going shopping and buying a gift" thing. On our site, we said:

The honor of your company is really the only thing we need.

However, we understand registries are appreciated. Because we have been on our own for a few years now, we have a lot of the typical household items a newly married couple would register for. Monetary gifts are appreciated, as we have quite a few home projects we would like to tackle, but if you would prefer to help us start this next chapter in our lives together with a few upgrades, we are register at the following retailers.

- we also included a link to our photographer as they have a place where people can donate money toward our album so we don't have to worry about that additional cost.

If someone really thinks it's that tacky to as for money they can not come or not bring anything... I could really care less. Also, I don't see how asking for cash is any more "tacky" than asking for a $600.00 robotic vacuum...just my opinion

Agree with this. Everyone I know does this in my area. Registry gift for the shower, cash gift to "cover your plate" at the wedding.

Agree with PPs that said it depends on your crowd. I also think you just have to SAY it. People don't take hints...

H's crowd is allll about the cash. We said we don't have a registry and they said, oh, got it, you want cash!

My side of the family didn't get it - my mom struggled to tell people, "oh they don't have a registry, cash is appreciated" b/c she thinks its rude. So a few family members took her response of "they don't have a registry" as they don't need anything and a few didn't gift at all. She tried to convince me to sign up for a cash registry. I don't understand why a cash registry is less rude saying they prefer cash, but what do I know?

I'm worried this will happen as well! Also I registered at Zola and my mom informed me that nobody wants to buy from there and they would rather go to an actual store. I guess I will probably register at Target so people can go get physical gifts if they want. I imagine his whole family will bring cards regardless. I'm just hoping we move before any gifts start coming.

I literally received 2 actual gifts for my wedding. I guess this is a regional thing maybe...? In our social circle everyone gives gifts for shower, cash for wedding.

I feel like not having the registry on the website is what's leading to all the questions. If people saw you were registered but 90% of the things were bought, they prob wouldn't be asking you and just give you cash... Because the registry isn't there, they now have an open ended possibility.

Same here. At every wedding I've been to where I live it's pretty much all cards with cash at the wedding itself. Occasionally you'll see a box or two but I would say 98% of the gifts are cards.

I get it, really I do. So many on here say that and although it may work for some, it will not work for my crowd so it is definitely a know your crowd thing. We do not have a registry and aren't having a shower either. We will be including a "Gifts" insert with our invitations that state, all we are expecting is your presence on our special day and that is literally all we want. No gifts, no money. Regardless of what people think, people don't take hints. We will still have a card box and even a gift table at the wedding because we know OUR crowd and I know there will still be some that will bring gifts with them. You know your crowd, you do what you think will work for them, and you. Good luck!