Hey ladies,
If you have read my posts before, you would know that my FMIL and I have a rocky relationship. She wants to fix it, which we are trying but there are times and things she does that seems like she definitely does not want that.
I previously posted about how she was trying to make this wedding her own and trying to get me to add things that I didn't want in the wedding or buy favors that I don't want to buy. She tried to get flowers that don't match our colors/themes added because they remind her of her uncle, who my FH and I have never met. She wanted to add her sister, uncle, aunt, great grandmother to our 'in memory of' sign, but we have never met these people, so in all honesty, I do not want them added. I am sorry if that makes me come off as rude. She is just making this wedding about her. (Please note that she is not contributing to the wedding at all, neither is my family. We are paying this all ourselves)
I took your advice, and had my FH talk to her about it, but it didn't work. We were over at her house last night, and she told my FH that she has a tie that she wants him to wear for the wedding, she said it had a bunch of watches on it for her dad since he was a watchmaker. I politely declined and said that we were wanting him and GM to match and thanked her for it. She then threw a fit because she wanted it and it was for her dad/his grandfather. I reminded her that we were already including him in our 'in memory of' sign, and this was our wedding, not a celebration of life, not everything has to be about his grandfather that has passed on. I told her I'm sorry that he did and I get it because mine did too, but not everything in our wedding had to be because it reminded me of him.
Am I a bad person because I don't want FH to wear a tie that doesn't match? Is it wrong that I don't want everything to be because his grandfather would have wanted it? We already have a few things because our grandparents would have wanted it. I just feel like she is making this wedding how she would have wanted her wedding to be. She was never married so I get that she is trying to live through me. It is just annoying. I'm just getting tired of her trying to make it about her and what she wants. I feel like a bad person though.
Sorry this is so long. Just needed to get this out.
