Y'all. I'm just so flustered. I just needed a space to vent.
LOOONNGGG story short I settled for a venue I didn't like, hoping that as we worked on getting vendors and coming up with an overall look that I would come to like it and get excited. Well, as the weeks go on I keep hating it more and more and more, and now it is to the point where I cry just thinking about it. (Seriously, I cried while talking to a florist when she pulled up pictures of the venue!)
My fiance knows I don't like it, and in turn he gets super upset everytime we talk about the wedding. This is supposed to be exciting and instead we've just stopped talking about it because everytime we do we both get sad.
At this point we signed the venue contract 6 weeks ago. we've paid over $14,000. (the venue deposit, plus catering deposit since they have an on site contracted caterer) plus deposits for the band and photographer/videographer. Basically, I'm saying all of this because it shows how there is no turning back or changing the venue.
So what do I do now? I drive myself crazy because I keep seeing venues that I love, but can't have. I already compromised on the wedding date (I wanted fall of 2021, he wanted March 2022, and I compromised) and I hate the venue. Yes, I am SO excited to call him my husband and to get married, and have our first dance, etc etc. But whenever I think about how the pictures will look, how the venue will look, that the feel of this venue is dark and moody and I want bright and airy... I just can't help but get sad and wish we could do something different.
My hope is that some other brides have hated the look of the venue and have a wonderful story about how they made it work... please??
Otherwise I have 324 days of crying and anxiety ahead of me...
Thanks for listening.