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Just sad!

Jordanne, on June 11, 2021 at 3:31 PM Posted in Planning 1 25

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Hi all. My wedding experience thus far has been, well, sad. I had four bridesmaids. Three months ago one of my bridesmaids dropped out due to money issues which is understandable. I asked another close friend, she agreed and was very happy! Well, today I wake up to the news that new bridesmaid is pregnant and doesn’t want to participate in the wedding now. So I’m out TWO bridesmaids since the beginning of this whole thing and my dress color scheme calls for four people. I’m just really sad and bummed because I’m going to have to change several things just to make it work. And this may seem crazy, but I’m bummed there is going to be an uneven number of bridesmaids for photos.. I don’t like the look of two on one side and just one on the other. I’m bummed, I’m sad, I’m disappointed.. I always show up and show out for my friends but they can’t do the same for me. Sorry for the rant, don’t really have anyone else to tell.

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Devoted June 2026
Kaylee · on June 11, 2021 at 3:36 PM
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Is there anyone else you can ask? A sister or a cousin?
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Beginner November 2021
Jordanne · on June 11, 2021 at 3:37 PM
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In my opinion, there is no one else to ask. I only have a very small group of friends and with those two backing out, they were my only other options.
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Kaylee · on June 11, 2021 at 3:38 PM
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I’m sorry, that’s disappointing
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Jordanne · on June 11, 2021 at 3:39 PM
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Thanks, it really is considering I’m about about $100 on hangers and robes for both girls as well.
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Veronica · on June 11, 2021 at 4:26 PM
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Is the first one still attending the wedding? If so, I would have offered to cover the cost of the dress and told her not to worry about paying for anything like a bridal shower or bachelorette party.
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Sara · on June 11, 2021 at 4:42 PM
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Is the first one still going to be attending the wedding? If money is the only thing getting in the way, then I'd offer to pay for her dress
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Beginner November 2021
Jordanne · on June 11, 2021 at 4:54 PM
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Her fiancé was also in the wedding and when she dropped out, so did he. We don’t really have the extra money for both of those things considering I’m already out over $100 for hangers, robes and accessories for both girls. And we are already over budget lol
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Ariel · on June 11, 2021 at 5:18 PM
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It sucks but it’s better to have people drop out then participate when they don’t want to or can’t afford to. It will still be great, even with the uneven numbers. It won’t be exactly what you imagined but it will still be your day!
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Master October 2021
Sexypoodle · on June 11, 2021 at 6:42 PM
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Definitely don’t let trivial things like colors or an uneven wedding party overshadow what’s truly important on a wedding day.
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Samantha · on June 11, 2021 at 7:21 PM
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Its totally okay to not have an even wedding party. Sometimes things happen and all you can do is go with the flow. Don’t stress too much. My wedding party has 5 guys and 3 girls on my side and 2 girls and 5 guys on his side. Having both an off number and guys on both sides has gotten a lot of looks for me. But in the end all I care about is the fact that everyone in the party is there by my side or my husbands side and they are who matter
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Savvy November 2021
Samantha · on June 11, 2021 at 7:36 PM
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Uneven* wedding party.
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Maggie · on June 11, 2021 at 7:52 PM
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This 100%! Allow yourself time to be sad and then move on. Don't try to find any other "replacements" (loved ones aren't actually replaceable anyway), just work with what and who you have. Also don't worry about spending any more money on things you don't need (like hangers and robes).
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Emily · on June 11, 2021 at 8:00 PM
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I feel you on this but for my MIL who I spent about $250 on for her to not come to our wedding. It’s frustrating and disappointing for sure, BUT I’d rather people who don’t want to be there not come. Everything happens for a reason and your day will be absolutely perfect! ❤️
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Dedicated September 2021
Shalla · on June 12, 2021 at 12:07 AM
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I have also been experiencing this…all 6 of my bridesmaids were asked in advance (puts us at a year of planning come wedding day) and one decided just last month she wanted to be pregnant and didn’t know when she would want to order her dress and asked if I could wait till a month or 2 before my wedding so she could see if she gets pregnant..I unfortunately had to kick her out because it was being made more about her…and the other (family) was told by another family member she looked bad in the dress and she wanted out because of it..def put me in panic but fixed that..so I went from 6 to 5 to 4 to back to 5…girl save yourself the aggravation and stick with what you have and don’t change anything unless it’s an absolute necessity
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Peyton · on June 12, 2021 at 12:56 AM
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Do not stress. Life is imperfect. It is ok. Ask your photographer for suggestions to balance everything out. It will be beautiful. You will have the most important people in your life by your side. Keep an open mind and focus on the fact that your life will be forever different and better.
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Just Said Yes December 2021
Vanessa · on June 12, 2021 at 1:34 AM
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Aw sorry to hear this! It can be difficult to deal with all of it and having to readjust your vision for the wedding.
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CountryBride · on June 12, 2021 at 10:35 AM
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I originally wanted 8 Bridesmaids, my fiance wanted 5 Bridesmaids so I asked my sister best friend, and my two cousins well, my cousins who are very stuck up and rude was making demands that unless I did this or that they wouldn't be involved in the wedding, fast forward I kicked them out because it's my wedding and the demands were ridcioulus couldn't invite this person , etc,,, so I asked my two friends who I've known for 10 years and they are so happy to come
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Vicky · on June 12, 2021 at 8:27 PM
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"I unfortunately had to kick her out because it was being made more about her". What the?
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Dedicated September 2021
Shalla · on June 13, 2021 at 9:06 AM
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I only gave a little insight to the story not every detail. There is a lot more to it to that as well
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Dedicated October 2022
Jamie · on June 13, 2021 at 5:05 PM
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I have 2 bridesmaids (my sisters) and my fiancé refuses to have anyone else except his one best friend. I keep asking him to make it even and find one more dude, anyone but he refuses lol. So its a uneven tiny bridal party. Nothing like I imagined growing up and dreaming of my wedding but it's real life and it's ok
At least you know the ones you do have participating will be the ones who you can count on years and years to come, and you'll look back on your photos thinking, "I still love those people!"
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