Just stressed/vent :)

I am planning my wedding in HI and I need to warn you how extremely expensive it is. If we didn’t book the flight yet, I would do it in a cheaper location. Everything is not only more expensive but it’s hard to find a great mua and hair stylist. They are just okay. I think the money is worth so much more in FL 😣

Your fiancé needs to talk to his family ASAP, but if they didn't even attend his previous wedding I wouldn't count on them attending yours.

This will depend which is more important to you and your fiancé: family or dream venue. If he really wants his family and friend there, FL will be the better choice. Hawaii is a long flight from the east coast and is even longer and more expensive from the UK. Hawaii basically on the opposite side of the world for them whereas FL is just across the pond for them. But if his family possibly not attending won’t bother him (or you) then go with your dream venue. Either destination will be fun and memorable.

I would say it depends on budget. If your friends and family can all afford a minimum of $5k per person to travel to HI, then I would personally do HI! We paid $4,000 for two round trip flights to HI and that did not include hotel or food. If not, FL would be just fine and way cheaper!

I would agree with the others. Hawaii will be more expensive for your guests, but if that’s where your want to get married you’re should go for it. We got married in Clearwater Beach, FL and it’s beautiful there.

I would personally have your wedding in Florida, and if Hawaii is your dream, then go there for your honeymoon. Unless all of your guests are super wealthy and can easily spend several thousand dollars a person, then I would do Florida. There are tons of gorgeous venues and places in Florida! You can always go to Hawaii for your honeymoon.

You personally would do it in Florida-get a lot more bang for your buck. When I was looking for honeymoon destinations, HI was by far the most expensive.

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I grew up in HI so definitely know the cost of everything is INSANE (I split my time between AK, HI, and Chicago so idk what affordable is lol!)

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That's what I'm anticipating...

I've told him we need to know by the year mark from our set date (the 19th) so he needs to communicate ASAP!

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He hasn't even asked their input if they'd be ok to travel to HI or if FL is their limit (or anything really ). If it was up to me, we'd elope on the beach but he wants a wedding.

I'd fly over to the UK if it was the only way they'd attend! Definitelty want them there over location.

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For us, it's cheaper to fly to HI... for both sets of parents FL is cheaper. While I absolutely love HI, I would rather see his parents there even if it meant getting married in their house lol, I just wish he'd communicate with them so we can solidify a real plan. We have a budget for both and small details that would transfer to both destinations but 0 headway of booking anything

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Clearwater is absolutely stunning! I feel both locations, we'd have a gorgeous wedding. I just wish I'd know if they'd come to one place and not the other, would come to both, or come to neither. I talked briefly to a planner in Miami and she was booked for our month already!

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Whichever location we go for, it'll be a honeymoon combined. I'm 100% ok with both choices, but if his parents don't want to come regardless of it being HI or FL, I would push a bit harder for HI.. my parents have already agreed to go wherever we choose.

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HI is definitely not cheap! I love both locations, just want that darn answer. I have the *estimated* costs, wedding boards, etc. for both and wish I could expend the energy in to "the one".

We are very fortunate financially that neither option (or even if we go to them! I'd be down for that and forgo guests entirely-- while beach is my dream, my end goal is truly to just be married) will hinder us. We're looking regardless of where we have it to keep it smalland lowkey. It's just driving me nuts (and he knows it ohhh he knows it lol) that we have 0 headway on booking anything. because he doesn't want to have the discussion with them. The date is important so getting ducks in a row is crucial.

I really hope I don't sound bridezilla-y! I'm just a planner at heart and adding in a DW to the mix fairly soon has me going crazy.

View Quoted Comment You know it then. My estimated intimate silver wedding for 6 people plus honeymoon for us two, total went from $7,000 to over $30,000 now.

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I don't even want to see my paychecks during this lol! Just take the money and let it hurt less, wedding expenses.

When is your wedding? I'm sure it'll be 100% worth it, just a hell of a price tag.

View Quoted Comment That is definitely considerate of you! I would personally get married where the two of you want to! 😆

His parents need to be notified immediately. Hawaii is not cheap.

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I definitely agree! They are well-off so I don't think financially either option would hurt them, but definitely would prefer to have their input vs assumptions. Them coming is my goal, location a flexible want.

There's a lot of long term pain between FH and FIL's and I think possibly the idea of rejection no matter WHERE may be why he is dragging his feet-I understand it, but there's so many moving parts where it needs to happen.