Just weighed myself = depressed

Hi Celina! I get how you feel. When I first met my FH, I was 105 and 2 weeks ago when I weighed myself, I was 172 which is the heaviest I've been.

Since then, I've lost a few pounds, and I'm at 166.4 this morning! I just drastically cut my calories because I realized I was taking in a lot more than what I was burning off from everyday activities and working out, so I'm doing a calorie deficit right now.

NOTE: Everyone's calorie deficit is different so the amount of calories I'm taking in now, won't necessarily be the amount you need to take in! I'm only taking in 1200 calories a day, and on days I work out heavily, I bump it up to around 1350 depending on how I'm feeling that day! I've cut my portion sizes drastically, and cut down on foods that I ate too much of like heavy starches/carbs (cakes, breads, pastries, rice, etc.). I still eat carbs, but I'm more mindful of my intake! I also don't snack as often, and when I do, I go for more healthy options like fruits, or low calorie snack packs that I get at Aldi!

I work out 4 times a week, and on days I don't work out, I take my dog on a 30min walk. That way I'm not overexerting myself on rest days, but I'm still getting some soft of exercise in. Another thing is STAY CONSISTENT. Before, I would do good for like a week, then the weekend would hit and I would eat terrible foods and go back to bad habits. Staying consistent with my calorie intake, and working out has helped me lose pounds quick!

View Quoted Comment Congratulations! That’s awesome. I know what I need to do it’s just the motivation to stay consistent is hard. With the kids being remote learning and then having a baby it’s just I’d rather do nothing on top of a hectic day but starting today I just want to kick myself in the butt and start being better at eating better and working out

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Thank you!! It's tough to find the motivation. I'm bad at procrastinating, so I kept telling myself "My wedding isn't until next January, I have time", but I have to remind myself that that kind of thinking is why I'm at the weight I am today. Wanting to look good is good motivation, but also, think about your sweet kids! You def. want to be healthier and happier for them so you can keep up with them and be the best mom you can be! A healthy mom, is a happy mom! I know you can do it!!

View Quoted Comment That is so true thank you so much! That settled my mind a bit

Hi Celina! (Sorry for the long post!)


I am still a year away from my wedding day, but I wanted to share my experience. As a previous poster said, everyone is different, so I am not “advising.” I hope perhaps you find some info helpful. (Background: I’m 41, 2 children). After gaining 25 lbs in 3 yrs following grad school, I decided to get my act together and focus on my health. This was a choice I made for ME, not my wedding (started working on it well before getting engaged). I focused on my mental/emotional health 1st (therapy, yoga, meditation...sounds new age but it worked). Even though I was making mostly healthy food choices, years of chronic stress had really messed up my hormones. I tried to reduce my calorie intake but was starving all the time (Noom, Weight watchers, and Keto did not work for me either). In November of last year, with my doctor’s approval, I began taking Saffron & Ceylon Cinnamon supplements. These apparently don’t work for everyone, but they worked WONDERS for me (and my mom). My appetite was back to “normal” and I was able to make even healthier choices because I wasn’t starving. I tracked my calories daily for several months (I kept it at 1200ish) & continued yoga, etc. & I gradually switched to a Whole Foods diet. Over the course of 3 months I lost 17 lbs. I plateaued for about 6 weeks but I didn’t make any changes because I was just really happy with how I felt & how I was eating. I stopped counting calories, but stayed mindful. Then the scale started moving again and I was down another 5 lbs in 2 wks!
The things I learned that were helpful for me: I approached the whole thing from a “self-care” mindset rather than pressuring myself to reach a goal for an event. I found activities & a way of eating that were enjoyable and sustainable (made it easy to be consistent). I do have this piece of actual advice: PUT YOURSELF 1st!!! It’s so hard to do as a parent, but doing so has made me a better mom!

Hi there. I think you can certainly get fit by end of August. Try not to think of as just losing lbs. Use other ways to measure like your increased energy, your defined muscles, how you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror. Want a happy goal? How about keeping up with your husband, children, and friends on the dancefloor. Your heart & lungs have to be strong to get down in a big dress. Think about all your loved ones telling you you're beautiful on your day. I want you to believe them. You got this!

Also, please don't use Hydroxycut or other dietary supplements.

I have lost weight since January by dieting. I do exercise, but you cant out-exercise a bad diet.


For exercise, long slow distance will help you lose weight. As in 5+ miles walking or running.
For diet, I mostly eat what I want, but I do not eat refined flour, refined sugar, processed vegetable oils, soda, or alcohol--no exceptions. I don't agree with the "cheat day" model of dieting. I eat mostly what I want, including meat, potatoes, cheese, sour cream, chocolate, fruit, peanut butter, but I have a hard line for the few things I mentioned before. This is the best way to lose weight.

I also don't know if you are on any medications or regularly drink soda, but overloading your liver will make it very difficult to lose weight. Another reason to skip ALL processed foods so that your liver can process toxins and doesn't need to store them in fat.

Also I highly recommend you try Whole 30

View Quoted Comment That’s amazing! Thank you for sharing and congrats girl!

View Quoted Comment I’m definitely going to think about those things!

View Quoted Comment If I can get my hands on soda I’ll drink it I know that’s a big thing I need to cut out cuz if I can’t drink soda or something sweet I won’t drink anything which is so bad I know.

View Quoted Comment Water is best! But if you want something sweet once in a while, try Zevia soda or another stevia-sweetened soda. Also you can have fruity teas, lemon water, coconut water, shakes with maple syrup and cinnamon, etc. Avoid soda and juice!!!!

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I don't drink soda, but if I'm wanting something more than just water, I mix Perrier carbonated water (0 calories), with a drink mix from Aldi (5 calories, 0 sugar). I rotate between the Raspberry Lemonade, and Fruit Punch! It's fizzy like a soda, and sweet, but much better than an actual soda or drink with tons of added sugars!

View Quoted Comment I actually like the water with lemon gives me that small taste I need

View Quoted Comment I’ll have to try that I’ve tried just the carbonated waters with no flavor and it’s bitter to me

As someone who used to struggle with my weight, I strongly suggest reading Thin side out - How to Have Your Cake & You Skinny Jeans Too by Josie Spinardi.

View Quoted Comment I’ll have to find it thank you

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Yeah I'm not a fan of sparkling waters with or without flavor. But adding the drink mix into Perrier and ice is great!

Also, I follow MadFit on Instagram and she has great workout videos that are easy! Most of the ones I like are about 12-15 min long and require no equipment, or you just need dumbbells.

View Quoted Comment I don’t have social media but I have apps that give me work outs I have some basic work out stuff