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Keep or Cancel: Reception Speeches?

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Lynnie, on July 16, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Reception toasts from your father, maid of honor, and best man can be incredibly moving and bring everyone to happy tears! 😭 That is, when the speeches are done well! On the other hand, they can also be awkward, embarrassing, and totally cringe-worthy when done poorly. What's your vote? Should we...

What's your vote? Should we put everyone out of their misery and cancel reception speeches? Or keep this personal and emotional toast tradition?

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Dedicated June 2021
Fredrecia · on July 21, 2019 at 7:56 PM
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Keep I'm sure it's going to be interesting
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Expert October 2020
Nodyia · on July 21, 2019 at 8:30 PM
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Not doing any speeches, I made this call from the beginning, we will have the blessing of the food and I will say thank you and lets get right to eating and dancing.
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Expert February 2020
Kristal · on July 22, 2019 at 11:03 AM
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Keep. MoH & BM for sure. Parents if they request in advance.
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Just Said Yes June 2020
Tammera · on July 22, 2019 at 11:17 AM
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We are keeping them. we who want to take a minute to thank everyone from coming most definitely. Our wedding is low-key but we like the idea of the maid of honor and best man saying a speech.
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Dedicated August 2019
Clara · on July 22, 2019 at 11:26 AM
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Cancel. We are not having them. This is both of our second marriage and we are not having a wedding party. We only have 45 people including ourselves and FH's four kids, so I don't feel it necessary.
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Beginner November 2019
Kathryn · on July 22, 2019 at 12:26 PM
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We are keeping this one, but it will be pretty much open mic. We are not going to keep it strictly maid of honor and best man.
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Beginner October 2019
Jessica · on July 22, 2019 at 12:30 PM
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Keep! I’m super excited to hear the inflated truth about our relationships.
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Just Said Yes October 2019
Magi Urbina · on July 22, 2019 at 2:10 PM
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As part of the toast... most definitely.
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Dedicated October 2022
Sherraine · on July 22, 2019 at 2:14 PM
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Keep it. id love to hear some heartfelt things as well as some funnier (but tactful!) stories
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Beginner June 2021
Tornia · on July 23, 2019 at 7:12 AM
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I'm keeping the speeches. I don't want it to be specific to one specific person so we will dedicate sometime for speeches so everyone can take a moment to say something.
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Beginner August 2020
Katie · on July 23, 2019 at 2:04 PM
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Keep, but short and sweet
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Super September 2019
Denise · on July 23, 2019 at 2:18 PM
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Keep. We aren't having the traditional people speak but we are having people speak. It'll be my mom & his dad who speak instead of my dad and his mom
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Savvy December 2019
Samantha · on July 23, 2019 at 11:26 PM
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Keep, but I am not who will be the toasts.
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Expert October 2019
Samantha · on July 24, 2019 at 12:26 AM
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We may cancel this. It just really depends, we haven't talked much about this.
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Just Said Yes May 2020
Stephanie · on July 25, 2019 at 10:02 AM
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Cancel. I would hate to give a speech at someone's wedding so I wont put my loved ones under the pressure and anxiety that comes with speeches. I want them to enjoy themselves at my wedding not be dreading public speaking!
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Savvy December 2020
Kristen · on July 26, 2019 at 12:51 PM
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Keep! Awesome for us and others to hear the love we have around us from those closest to us. Only if they want to though! No one is forced to do a speech because of their 'position' but if they are comfortable giving one we would love it!
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Alyssa · on July 27, 2019 at 7:51 AM
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Keep! Even though my MOH doesn't necessarily want to speak in front of the crowd, I always enjoy hearing stories about the bride and groom. (And after a few drinks, I'm sure she'll be fine to do it!)
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Devoted September 2019
ALYSSA · on July 30, 2019 at 1:48 PM
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Keep- but also keeping it short and sweet. I think we are sticking to bridesmaid, best man, and then my father will do the grace/blessing before dinner.
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Jamie · on July 31, 2019 at 7:36 PM
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I'm hoping to get speeches from the MOH and BM, but I don't want to put pressure on anyone either. I'm pretty sure there will be speeches!
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Savvy August 2020
Katherine · on August 1, 2019 at 12:46 PM
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Cancel. You said it best: they are cringeworthy, awkward, and poorly executed all too often. I don't plan on forcing anybody to speak and if possible, will avoid it at all costs. LOL.
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