Keep or Cancel: Traditional Wedding Vows?

Keep! My fiancé and our families are Catholic so we’re having a traditional Catholic ceremony.

Cancel, writing on own vows

Keep, but without the religious framing. The vows aren't super important to us, so it's easier to just do a "cookie cutter" ceremony

Cancel. I think that it's more personal when you make your own. There's something about that "obey" part that I just can't get behind.

Keep. I originally wanted to do my own vows, but I've recently found a deep meaning in the traditional vows. I might add my own small personal vow to the end, but the traditional are keepers.

Keep with creativity. Mesh traditional with new age. Share personal vows, but still enter into the contract of marriage with the traditional vows.

Cancel! We are having a Jewish ceremony and I’ve written our own vows, as well as our Ketubah, 7 blessings and wine blessing. Everything is personalized for us.

Cancel. I don’t obey anyone 😂

I do think the language needs to be updated. But really this one is a little of both. For us it is a cancel because neither one of us are religious so our whole ceremony will kind of be our creation. Also, we've written things for each other a lot so personalized vows just feel right.

Cancel, we decided right away we wanted to write our own vows can’t wait to hear what he says

Keep. Although I'm not a "traditional" bride (first wedding at 54), I love the traditional vows. They choke me up every time.

Keep in a way. The wording for phrases might be similar but it will have relationship specific stuff too.

Keep the traditional wedding vows because reciting your own vows can turn into a bunch of unnecessary rambling. This waste time and frustrates the guest.

I'm not sure just yet. There's something about the idea of hearing those words directed to me that gives me a surreal "omg it's happening to me" feeling. But I am a writer and know no one can express how I feel towards my FH better than me. TBD.

Were not sure yet. Itll probably be some combination of old and new. Maybe with both our heritages involved hes Cherokee and I'm Irish.

Keep for sure.

Cancel. We are doing a Native American ceremony with vows and I think they are way more meaningful and heartfelt. I think the traditional vows are overdone and overly simple.

Cancel, but I want to keep the idea behind them, but update it to be special for us.

We're doing both! After the traditional vows, before the "I Do's" we are going to say our own vows to each other. It's traditional and it's personal to the two of us.

We're keeping these, it's one of the only traditional aspects we're maintaining.