Keeping wedding photos off the Internet

Gosh that's a tough one, I get what you're saying hit it's hard to word it. Do your guests know of the situation ahead of time?

Go unplugged. You can't really collect the phones (though I'd love that....), but you can put it on the website, you can have your officiant announce it, and you can have a great sign that asks them to NOT do it. Pinterest has loads of examples...

Me? "Post a photo and we'll have to kill you."

Okay, maybe not.

I think you should just say on the invites that no personal pictures are to be taken, so they'll know not to.

A few very close friends and family know what we have been through but that has not stopped a family member from posting and announcing our engagment before I could tell all( they posted at the small family affair right there and then). Its tough to tell the full story, i think I will check out pintrest and I also like asking the officiant to also make the announcment.

Please keep sneding me ideas

I'm all for unplugged, but phone collecting is over the top and will only cause resentment. Rightly so, especially with someone's new iPhone 6, lol.

I would never give up my phone for entrance into an event - that would violate MY privacy. Use the communication methods Celia suggested.

As an adult, who has been asked to give up my phone to gain admittance to an event I am going to say no. You cant take up peaoples phones. I would turn around and go home.

I wouldn't hand over my phone either. I have a VERY sick family member and need to be able to be reached 24/7...even during someone's wedding. I would have no problem respecting a "no pictures" or "don't post pictures" request, but if asked to hand over the means for my family to contact me, I would have to decline your wedding invite (and probably be grumbling about how inconsiderate it was as I declined ).

Question....do you have problems with people posting photos or taking photos of you or both?

I ask because I found guests photos during the wedding to be an awesome thing (if you have to wait for prof photos it is likely a few weeks-and those that love you capture some really awesome photos of you...and in the case of the bride with the bad photographer situation she hopefully had friends and family that captured moments throughout the day of her and her groom, and event).

You could create a sharing station with a laptop computer and some flash drive cords in the reception room so people know how they can share photos with you with out sharing them online (sometimes they feel like they are doing you a favor).

Or you can just make as many mentions and signs of please do not take or post photos on the web of this wedding as might be tasteful. You still might find that you have an aunt or friend that just don't get it...I hope it all works out for you.

I'm not sure there is much you can do. I definitely wouldn't advise taking people's phones. They may find that a bit rude.

Taking phones can also create liability if one gets lost/damaged.

There honestly may not be much you can do. Unfortunately this is the world we live in now. If you keep the wedding small to only those who truly know you and that you wouldn't want photos posted, that might help.

Going unplugged for the ceremony is totally within the realm of possibility. You can put it in the invite, have a visual reminder at the site, and your officiant can remind everyone at the start of the ceremony.

The tricky part is the reception. You can't really stop people from taking pictures. The best thing to do is reach out to your guests ahead of time in other situations and just gently and politely remind them that you do not want your faces and information on the internet.

Ideally, that would be enough. I have a few friends who are super anti-social media and so I am very careful not to tag them in pictures and generally make sure their photos don't end up on the internet in the first place.

You will meet with resistance, and that is unfortunate. You have to decide what matters more to you - your privacy or the ensuing difficulties with people when you make the polite request not to post a picture or worse, to take it down.

Best wishes and good luck.

That's a tough one... definitely DON'T collect phones, you'll just piss people off and some may even leave because of it. An unplugged ceremony is a good way to go. but.. the reception is going to be tricky.. you can't tell people not to use their phones all night, and even if you did, most people wouldn't respect it. You could spread it by word of mouth and put it on your website.. but honestly I don't think there is any way you are going to be able to avoid it... sorry /:

I'm going to tell ya right now that's pretty much not going to happen. :-\ You can reach out to all the people individually and let them know, but someone will do it no matter what you ask. My FH is a privacy freak and you just can't stop it. You can, however, once pictures show up on FB, ask people to remover the ones of you.

If all else fails, wear a mask.

I sympathize with you. Put a note in with the invitation, print it on the program, have a sign at the door of venue(s), have officiant announce it, put a small sign on each table telling them what they can take pics of -- just not you two.

Because god forbid we go without our phone for 20 minutes.....

Someone should invent some sort of photo scrambler or device that stops cell phone cameras from working in different places. If you could do that, you could be very rich. Think about it, concert halls would be lining up to pay you.

I don't post pics of my daughter. When her school sends out their forms in the beginning of the year, everything says that you agree to pics posted on the school site up to the districts site. The first year, I didn't sign since I don't agree to that. I was told that I had to sign. So I wrote not in every sentence. I wrote a note saying her photo isn't allowed to be posted on the internet. Then signed it and made a copy for myself. At first, they wouldn't take any group photos since I won't let them post them. They made a big stink about it to me as if everyone else was suffering because they lacked 1 photo. The following year, a dozen or so families did what I did. Now they take the pic and blur out the faces of the kids who are on the no internet pics list.

Now that doesn't stop it entirely, parents film school shows and have them posted seconds after the performance is over. The kids (4th graders so basically 9-10 year olds) are posting to instagram. I don't think they have enough sense in their heads to be let loose like they are.

It's bothersome to me but obviously out of my control. I do the best that I can to keep it as minimal as possible.

Unfortunately, I think it will be very difficult. My good friend is the daughter of a well known political figure and she spread the word for people not to post pics of her dad, and within seconds of him walking her down the aisle, facebook already had a few. I think having your officiant say something might be the most direct way to go, unless your guestlist is small enough to depend on word of mouth.

One of my friends did a wedding for a VERY public person last year, and the planner made sure that no cameras were in evidence. And they weren't.

Guests who post photos that you don't want photos are the worst variety of rude

You can request an unplugged ceremony, but you cannot collect cell phones. If you are really that concerned about it and that private, perhaps consider eloping.

ETA: Anytime you need a cutesy poem to do something, it is because it is rude to just say, which means you probably shouldn't do it.