I guess I'm wanting some kind of support, or something... I'm not even sure anymore.
I got engaged last year in August, it was one of the most exciting times in my life (as you can probably imagine). I picked my bridesmaids (Jen as maid of honour, and my sister as my bridesmaid.)
When I picked them, my sister wasn't happy she wasn't maid of honour, she was more upset that my best friend got that title, I explained to her because she wasn't married, I wanted a married woman as maid of honour..
After a week she started talking to me again, as time went on, she started to complain about hair, make up saying at first she didn't want someone to do it for her, to then saying she did when I'd already booked it. She complained about the dresses being a size too big, when they haven't been altered yet.
When i tried on my wedding dress, I asked her to be there explained how it meant a lot of me when she told me "I'm not getting up that early on my day off." The dress fitting was at 9 AM. I travelled over an hour away to get the dress, and she didn't even give me a call or message to apologise.
After everything, I told her that my partner and I thought she would be better in the wedding rather than the wedding party. Naturally I expected her to be upset, but she called me 10x in a row until I answered, and kept sending me messages like "Why can't you explain yourself? After everything I've done for you? You were going to be my bridesmaid? I've already organised my dress!?"
My mother and I paid for her dress, I paid for everything for her to wear at the wedding, inclduing jewlery and was paying for hair & make up as well.
She hasn't attempted to help me organise my hens night, wedding or appointments for the wedding, and every time I tried to organise I was met with resistance.
I've asked my other best friend of 13 years to be my bridesmaid, which she has accepted with gratefullness and appreciation, together we've organised more in a week than my sister did in 12 months.
But I still dont' know why i feel so bad, or why she's now disowned me and won't let me see my nephew.
P.S. Even though I told her it was a child free wedding, she organised with her ex partner to drop my nephew off for photos without my knowledge or consent. When I did get wind of it, I shut it down quite quickly, but she made it my problem and fault for not letting him come to the wedding in the first place.
Any ideas, or hints to how I can get back on track with her? She's said she's not coming to the wedding, or anything to do with me in the future. But she's my sister and I do love her, I just wanted in this 12 months, after giving her chance and chance again to be the sister who supported me... was that really too much to ask for?