Kicked out of the bridal party for getting married

She doesn't get to claim a whole season. Pay her no attention and book the date that is meaningful to you.

You did not do anything wrong. I will never understand why weddings bring out the worse in people.

I'm getting married this March and my sister is getting married in April, like 4 weeks after me! She also got engaged before me. But we both just picked the date that worked for us and were fine as long as it wasn't the same day. I didn't want to do it in April since that was her wedding month but March is what worked for us so that's what we chose. Your cousin seems really petty, not even wanting you to get married in the same season. I don't think you did anything wrong, especially if your date has special meaning to you. The whole time we were trying to pick a date, everyone told us not to worry about anyone else's schedule and pick what was best for us. We still tried to be considerate of others but in the end, you really have to pick what's best for you.

Did she already book a venue for april? she could always change her date if it really bothers her that much. but no your not doing anything wrong. you both need to do what works for you your FH'S and your families.

Agreed with Sarah. 5 weeks is literally more than one month in between, not like it’s the next weekend. She’s being completely irrational, you have a reason for choosing that date, and even discussed with her beforehand. Cut her loose, she should be apologizing to you. You are not the one creating the rift, she is. Stay strong and stand your ground!

Your cousin is being selfish. Maybe you dodged a bullet by being kicked out of her bridal party because if she's being this crazy now imagine how bad it will get closer to the wedding!

Ohhhhhh girl that recently happened in my family . My brothers 30th birthday party and my cousins baby shower were being held on the same day. We are all around the same age so we are all friends so we have been to their 30th birthday parties and heads would roll if we weren't there. Basically it sucks to hurt family's feelings but they most time people are so self obsessed that they want everything to be about them that when the next big mile stone rolls around they are going to want your attention. Just don't stop what your doing to bend over backwards for people who wouldn't do the same for you.

Your cousin is being a bridezilla. You didn't do anything wrong.

As family, you both should be excited for this moment in each other's lives, not being petty about dates and "stealing" the shine from one another. I CAN'T believe family would treat family like that. You absolutely did nothing wrong, in fact you were very considerate.

Okay I know this is an older thread but I just have to say this because your situation reeks of disfunction: You do not have the power to fracture your family forever any more than you have the power to turn Bridezilla into a reasonable person. If she wants to be upset about your wedding then that's what she's going to do and it's likely that nothing that you do short of dropping dead will make her happy. Even then she'd probably complain that you had your funeral before her wedding just to one-up her. You can't fix this because the problem is inside her head and you are not her psychotherapist or god. Either she will get over it or die pissed, but neither of those things are on you.

You have no idea how much I appreciate this message. I feel like my whole family STILL expects me to snap her out of it and continue to try to persuade her to stop. I really just want to stop thinking about it and completely move on to enjoying my day, but our mothers continue to hold out hope that if we do the right thing, she will come around. It is exhausting. I'm going to share your message with my mom so we can both just be free of this.