Kicking a bridesmaid out?????

Remember that if you ask her to step down, it is generally a friendship-ending move. If you don't care about staying friends, then you politely say that you would no longer care for her to be in the wedding. If you do care, then maybe you should sit her down and talk to her about her attitude and treatment of others.

My questions is, why is someone like this in your bridal party in the first place?? Before you asked her, was she a better friend, and just switched gears? If the way she's acting is out of character, try sitting her down and asking her why she's acting this way. Is something going on her personal life that is affecting her, and she's taking her emotions out on your wedding planning? Is she jealous? Keep in mind that often times, removing someone from a bridal party is a friendship ending move. So make sure this is what you want to do, and that you have all of your facts before making a decision.

If she's just naturally a nasty person, I'd remove her from my bridal party and from my life. Negativity like that isn't needed during a wedding, and it's certainly not needed in a friendship.

Are you hoping to continue the friendship with her? If so, I would maybe try talking to her first and letting her know how her words and actions have made you feel. Ask her if she's still interested in being in the wedding party, and if she says yes, be clear that you will not tolerate drama or fighting. It is your wedding, not hers. She doesn't get to decide who is in your wedding and who isn't. Give her the opportunity to change, and if things don't improve, have another conversation and decide at that time whether to remove her. If this is out of character for her, ask her about what is going on in her life. Maybe there is something (unrelated to your wedding) that's causing her to feel upset?


If you don't care to continue the friendship, then I would meet with her in person to have a conversation. You could start with asking her if she even wants to be in your wedding party, since she seems so unhappy with everything, just to give her the option of leaving on her own decision. You could tell her that you had invited all your bridesmaids to be in your wedding party because you value their friendship and want to honor them, and you expect everyone to be respectful and kind. You could also tell her that because she can't seem to get along with everyone and because she won't respect your decisions, that you think it would be better if she attended the wedding as a guest instead. Be warned that this will likely end the friendship completely.

Assuming she is not always awful, or you would not be friends talk to her. People change. But if this nasty streak is the new her, you do not need it. Talk to her. If she blows at you, just say, we have been friends a long time, but You have changed. And I do not like the new you. I don't live with drama and stress.

Was she like this before? Seems like an odd choice for a bridesmaid if that is the case. Have you talked to her to find out why she feels this way? Be aware that kicking her out means you will be ending the friendship as well.

If she doesn’t have the ability to be civil with other members of your bridal party for the sake of your wedding she obviously has no respect for you or your relationship. It doesn’t take much to be cordial. If you knew before hand that she “hated” everyone in your bridal party and that she was going to behave this way you invited all of this drama. I would ask her to step down. It will probably end your friendship but if she’s disrespecting all the people that I care about without good reason then she’s not the kind of friend I’d keep around.

Kick her out and then stop talking to her. You need to stand your ground on this one. This is your wedding day. This is a major day in your life. You don’t need her in your life, and you don’t need her in your bridal party nor do you need her at your wedding. I’d cut that girl off so fast her number would’ve already been deleted in my phone. Save yourself the stress and drama and don’t call her anymore.

The sooner you take a stand on this, the better. My question is why would you have such a toxic person in your life?

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