Kicking out

Typically, asking someone not to be a bridesmaid once you have asked them to be one ends the relationship. Only you can know whether that's worthwhile.

I have the same attitude as Katie, my answer would be cool! Don't think of it as "kicking out" think of it as "downsizing" Good luck!

There's really no way to do this and guarantee that you'll maintain the friendship. I mean, I guess there is a *chance* that they'll take it well??? But if you do this you need to be alright with the fact that there's also a huge chance they will not take it well, and you will lose your friendship with them. Is that worth it to you? If you don't care, then kick them out. If you do care about the friendship at all, then just suck it up and have them in your bridal party. Even if they're not super important to you now, they were important to you once. Try to focus on the important role they used to play in your life even if they don't much anymore.

Since you don't know when your new date will be, I wouldn't make any moves with the bridal party quite yet... what if you guys get close again and you decide you do want them in your bridal party... I would just mention to everyone that the wedding is postponed and leave it at that, and see what makes most sense to do once you have a new date and you're 9 or so months away. If the girl you haven't spoken to in over a year continues not to talk to you, you can pretty safely assume that the friendship is over and you might not even have to say anything to her, it might be silently assumed. Possibly the same thing with the girl that moved and didn't tell you. However, if either of them do make an effort to contact you once you have a date set, but you still don't want them as bridesmaids, it's best to be honest.

Maybe I just understand from the bride's perspective as well - When you look at the cost of everything, I wouldn't be offended at all as the friend, no one should assume the worst about someone that means so much to them. But I agree with the terminology of "downsizing" rather than booting someone. I know I'd be understanding

At this point (since OP is getting married in October and it is the end of August) you would have probably already purchased your dress/shoes/other things for the wedding. You wouldn't be upset about this wasted money?