Kid parade HELP!

Have you considered not including any children? Less stress and money.

This sounds like a recipe for disaster. Do you absolutely have to have a ring bearer? Could you just not have one? It's my wedding, not a kid parade.

We had several options for both roles. We ended up deciding that he picks one kid and I pick one kid and that's it. So far, there's been no fallout as a result. My cousin has two daughters and I picked the older one whom I have a much closer relationship with. My cousin is thrilled and not at all upset that her other children will not be in the wedding party.

I will not be parading all of the other young children that we could have easily asked to be RB or FH in the ceremony. I think something like that would just stress that all of them were your second choices.

Why do you think there will be so much drama if you don't include all of the children?

I will include children as they are important to me. I have planned on it being very slack with attire. Parents would provide a white button up, black pants, and a purple tie. And I know the parents would pay for that.

Also, FH picked a girl to be our RB, even though I have several young boys in my family that are the children of my cousins (that I'm incredibly close to). Picking the two girls you have in mind to be a FG and a RB is also an option you have.

I'm kind of having a kid parade, don't see anything wrong with it as long as you and your FH are comfortable with it. We're having my 3 youngest nieces as the "petal patrol", the youngest nephew will be the RB and 2 nephews as sign holders. If you're lax with the attire, it shouldn't be an issue.

Maybe you can make the younger boy the RB and the other a sign holder or vice versa.

We are having 2 FGs and 3 RBs. I think it will be so cute. After they walk down the aisle, they will all sit with their parents in the front two rows.

I just wouldn't have either if I were you. There's too many kids in my and FH families we just aren't including kids in te wedding party or wedding. A kid parade can easily turn into a circus real quick. I would skip it.

Have you double checked that the parents are ok with paying for their kids to be in the wedding? It sounds like you're just assuming. That might help make the decision easier, but once you've asked you've committed to that kid. Honestly, just pick the kids you want. Don't make it bigger than it is. No one cares as much about your wedding as you and FH/FW do. Others might not mind at all that one kid is included and one sibling isn't.

Lol, "kid parade" sounds like my own personal nightmare. RB's aren't really necessary, so you could just skip it and have only the two FG's (which really aren't that necessary either!).

I cannot think of anything I like less, except maybe a pet fashion show.

Just ax all of them. They generally don't want to do it, when the day comes, they REALLY don't want to do it, and it adds cost, stress and the need for diplomacy.

Yeah as I said in an earlier thread, by the time my aunts got married, they only wanted my cute little 3 and then 6 year old sister and not me because I was "too old" (6 and then 9). I guess I understand as an adult, but it still sucked majorly as a little girl.

That's why I say if there are too many close kids to reasonably include, leave FG and RB out. Even if you're closer to one kid's parents over another (the kids are cousins) or one is cuter or too old, kids don't get that. They just understand that they're being excluded.

Plus one or two kids can be bad, more would be a nightmare. Kids feed off each other's bad behavior. Ugh!

Just bc other kids are included doesn't mean every child will care, you should consider the personalities of each. I grew up with two cousins (only 2 months apart from each other) and one could not do anything without the other getting upset. They would each throw a tantrum at each other's birthday party, any time one had or got something the other had to have one as well or they would completely show out. In the meantime I had another cousin (she is actually 2 weeks older than the youngest of the two mentioned above-oddly there is usually 3 ppl pregnant at a time in my family) she was the complete opposite. She hated the spotlight, very introverted, and hardly every cared to be around the other two. I will add all three of them are adults now and are in my wedding. But I said all that to say you may not have as many kids to worry about as you think.

I don't think there should be any hard feelings about this. Presumably the kids won't know the difference or care, and their parents are adults who shouldn't be offended.

I have 12 nieces and nephews across our families. We chose one child from each side of our family, and letting that be that. Not a big deal.

The thought of a 'kid parade' at a wedding makes me want to smack myself in the face.

No . Just. No.

I'm considering it! My wedding is going to be destination and a bit of a family reunion of both our families. I'm considering that if any kids are there, if their parents want them to wear the right colors, I'm cool with them walking down the aisle! I love kids more than anything! Almost, my wedding will be formal with an emphasis on fun!

I am really looking forward to a kid parade. We are expecting between 12-18 children, under age 12. Do they go down the aisle with the flower girl? I was thinking of having them join us at the alter after the ceremony is over, take a couple QUICK pictures, then have them lead the applause and they lead us out of the church. I love having little ones around, and want to make it fun.