Kids and Friday weddings?

It wouldn't hurt asking the parents. I would have a talk with them and see what their thoughts are. They could either say yes they can be in the wedding or no. And you can always tell them your suggestion of them having a half day in school. I know that for me personally if it was my siblings or bestfriends wedding I wouldn't mind pulling my kids out of school for a half day but I wouldn't do it for someone who I wasn't close with.

You shoukd probably talk with them ASAP.

This is one of the issues with a weekday wedding, unfortunately. If I was their parent, I probably allow them to be in the wedding, but I would not let them be there all day. You should definitely ask there parents sooner than later so they can plan accordingly.

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Yeah both kids are my FHs cousin's kids (different cousins, different sides of the family). They have pretty strong sense of family - always come together to celebrate birthdays and stuff. Both kids were in his sister's wedding last year which was out of state but it was over the summer so school wasn't an issue. Flower girl's dad is probably already aware we are going to ask his daughter to be in the wedding and I don't think he will have a problem with it but he doesn't have full custody of her so really it's up to mom. Fortunately she's on good terms with the family and I think she will probably be okay.

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Definitely understandable! I'm not sure exactly what time their school days end but we can't even access our venue until 3, so I wouldn't have a problem with them getting there between 3-4 but wouldn't want them arriving any later than that because of pictures. The boy won't need to do anything but change. While I know the girl would love to get her hair done (curled, basically) with the rest of us, it would be simple enough for someone to brush it and quickly style it... fortunately I have a couple bridesmaids who are good with that kind of stuff Obviously she won't be getting any makeup done except maybe a touch of lip gloss.

Ultimately if their parents say no then it will be okay!

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Yes, planning on speaking with them over the next few weeks.

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Well thats great! Goodluck with everything

I’m a teacher in Florida. In my district, a parent can write a note to have an excused absence. They’re allowed to have 6 parent notes per nine weeks to be counted as excused. Whether or not her absence is excused, I think most parents would find it an honor to have their child be in your wedding. Also, when you ask the parents, make sure you let them know that you’ve taken it into consideration and you’ll understand their decision.