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Kids at Wedding

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Ebony, on July 27, 2022 at 1:54 PM

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Hello everyone 👋🏾
My wedding went from a “no kid” wedding to “exception to the rule” wedding. I honestly felt I had no other option since my bridesmaids (only 2) have kids and unfortunately no one is willing to watch them (not even the fathers)

And my mother have legal guardianship of my niece, and she feel “she’s 11 she’ll be well behaved.”
I understand the circumstances but I also feel like it’s not fair that I don’t really have an option, especially since my wedding is a destination they just don’t feel comfortable leaving their children, even if they could find a baby sitter.
I don’t know how to feel. Can someone give me some advice or something to make me feel better😂I don’t want to be a bridzilla but I just wish I had 100% say in how I want things to go 😞

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Devoted May 2023
Ebony · on August 6, 2022 at 2:11 PM
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If everything goes right we should be going to the virgin island…and we aren’t booking a hotel we rented an Airbnb…so things are a little more difficult to do since we aren’t doing the standard hotel.
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Julija · on August 6, 2022 at 2:17 PM
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Ahhhhh, yeah that will be tricky for sure. The virgin island is amazing btw. Went sailing there with a group of friends pre-covid
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Ebony · on August 6, 2022 at 3:30 PM
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And that’s what I’m scared of. All these new diseases and natural disasters I hope it don’t get ruined.
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Michelle · on August 7, 2022 at 5:14 PM
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If you and fiancé are paying, you absolutely have 100% say in the guest list. If that means no kids, then you offer resources to parents and let them decide whether to utilize them or decline the invitation. Your wedding is not the only event that they will attend without kids and giving them a night off from parenting is not seen as a “favor” by all. You could locate a mobile babysitting company that offers on site childcare but not all parents will feel comfortable with it.

If you are not budging from your child free stance and other guests such as mom do their own thing, it’s likely that you will have other guests upset because some are exempt and don’t have to follow the same rules as everyone else, whether you gave the green light or they made the choice on their own. But those upset guests will never tell you because it’s not polite to say anything to the couple. Set clear boundaries and don’t let anyone cross them because they will find loopholes with similar decisions in the future.
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Devoted May 2023
Ebony · on August 7, 2022 at 5:51 PM
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Thank you for the advice ❤️
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