Kids or No kids

I am inviting kids from our families and bridal party.

Others, I am not. I am including number of guests on the invitation as well as & Family written on the envelopes so people know if they have children invited. On my website under FAQ I wrote that with a few exceptions we are not having children under the age of 10 at the wedding and to contact me with any questions.

If enough out of town guests RSVP that have children I will see if we can arrange a babysitter. I'm sure there will be guests who feel upset over this but I think most will be understanding.

Usually you either invite all kids or no kids, except if they are in the wedding party, or siblings of those in the wedding party.


Be prepared for hurt feelings if people are told their children aren’t invited and then there are children there.

We had a small wedding, only 80 guests. Not many had kids and those that did - we didn’t invite the kids. We had one couple ask if they could bring their toddler - and eventually decided not too. My mom demanded my cousin’s get to bring their kids and helped pay for them.

The only children we are inviting are my own children and my fiance's sisters children..and hopefully we will be able to get a babysitter to watch the kids when it gets to be their bedtime so we can enjoy the rest of the night kids free I'm in my mid thirties and my FH will be forty so the majority of people we are inviting have children so it would be overwhelming if we allowed all of them. They way I look at it is it's a night out for our guests..want them to be able to let loose and enjoy themselves.

It’s entirely fine to invite children in circles. If a non-family guest asks about it, just say “I’m sorry, we were only able to invite our family’s children due to budget/capacity constraints.”

The only kids at mine are in the bridal party!

I allowed kids at reception but not ceremony. However I knew that's a challenge since I had reception right after so I hired the church's nanny to babysit in the nursery. That went over very well since parents of church goers all knew the nanny already. But for your predicant I'd look at space and budget. Kids take seats and that may not work for your space and budget.

View Quoted Comment I understand, I'm just at the age where all my friends have babies, and I don't want to have a crying baby in the middle of our vows. I'm also a teacher so, a break from kids will be nice.